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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 510195"><p>I redecorated difficult child's room last week. In fact your post inspired me to haul out the steamer to get the wrinkles out of the new drapery. One final step...</p><p></p><p>When he left, I looked around his room and told H - "I want this room empty and I want to buy new furniture and a PINK FLOWERED bedspread & drapery..." </p><p></p><p>In fact, within an hour of him leaving, H and I boxed up the few things remaining in his room and packed it all out of site. Almost feverishly - wanted to get it done before the pcs came home from school.</p><p></p><p>I didn't go so far as new furniture, but I did buy a new (not flowered :-( blue and white striped-budget won over floral) bedspread, drapery, a few "grown up" pictures for the walls and FLORAL lampshades (for some lamps re purposed from another room.) I steam cleaned the carpet and patched the nail holes in the walls.</p><p></p><p>It's not his room anymore. Still smells like his cologne - he must have spilled it somewhere - but I hope that will fade. But it doesn't look like his room. And now I can't go in there and lay on his bed and try to "feel" his presence. I didn't want it to become an untouched shell of a room awaiting his return or hold on to memories of a boy who no longer exists. That's why I did it sooner than later. If he does come home at some point and see it - it's a message to him. Even more so, it's a message to me; <strong>he doesn't live here anymore.</strong> Fake it til you make it. </p><p></p><p>PC17 asked me "why are you doing all this?" and I said "next year you'll be away at school and I thought you might occasionally want to bring friend home for the weekend. Now, they can stay in here..." and easy child SMILED <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>I also told easy child that if he gets an off campus apartment in a few years, he can take the furniture for it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 510195"] I redecorated difficult child's room last week. In fact your post inspired me to haul out the steamer to get the wrinkles out of the new drapery. One final step... When he left, I looked around his room and told H - "I want this room empty and I want to buy new furniture and a PINK FLOWERED bedspread & drapery..." In fact, within an hour of him leaving, H and I boxed up the few things remaining in his room and packed it all out of site. Almost feverishly - wanted to get it done before the pcs came home from school. I didn't go so far as new furniture, but I did buy a new (not flowered :-( blue and white striped-budget won over floral) bedspread, drapery, a few "grown up" pictures for the walls and FLORAL lampshades (for some lamps re purposed from another room.) I steam cleaned the carpet and patched the nail holes in the walls. It's not his room anymore. Still smells like his cologne - he must have spilled it somewhere - but I hope that will fade. But it doesn't look like his room. And now I can't go in there and lay on his bed and try to "feel" his presence. I didn't want it to become an untouched shell of a room awaiting his return or hold on to memories of a boy who no longer exists. That's why I did it sooner than later. If he does come home at some point and see it - it's a message to him. Even more so, it's a message to me; [B]he doesn't live here anymore.[/B] Fake it til you make it. PC17 asked me "why are you doing all this?" and I said "next year you'll be away at school and I thought you might occasionally want to bring friend home for the weekend. Now, they can stay in here..." and easy child SMILED :-) I also told easy child that if he gets an off campus apartment in a few years, he can take the furniture for it. [/QUOTE]
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