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That other shoe I have been fretting? Did drop, but is a relief. Still hurts though
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 531494" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I had a long talk with the coach difficult child works most with. Apparently their main concern is the social side of this. Basically they are worried that if difficult child doesn't fit in and make some friends he will be unhappy and lonely and that will show in his performance. His lack of social skills and coming off arrogant annoys others, especially those closer to his age. And him having trouble following rules doesn't help. And things they wouldn't mind from others (really none of his team mates is really interested if someone's shoes are on the floor, but having everyone's shoes on the floor would make a lot of extra work for the janitor, hence the rule) they do mind from the difficult child because they don't like him in the first place. And of course any transgression that would for example make everyone have to wait or something like that really annoys everyone. And it works against him that he is in the absolute bottom of the team's pecking order, but some of the others think he is favoured over them. And some of the guys who really don't like him are very popular in the team.</p><p></p><p>So it is an unfortunate situation. Coaches and team captains can tell others to suck it up, but it could end up so that it would be revenged to difficult child behind their backs, and he would feel himself even more miserable and unwanted. Coaches can intervene only so much without making it look like favouritism and it backfiring, and older, high in the pecking order, team mates can ease the situations with using humour, making sure difficult child is not left totally alone etc. but still in the end it comes down to that somehow difficult child's relationships with his peer group in the team should improve. And they feel that only way to really accomplish that is to make difficult child's behaviour at least a bit less annoying to others. After that they may be able to work to make it better through some of the more socially talented and mature guys in his peer group.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 531494, member: 14557"] I had a long talk with the coach difficult child works most with. Apparently their main concern is the social side of this. Basically they are worried that if difficult child doesn't fit in and make some friends he will be unhappy and lonely and that will show in his performance. His lack of social skills and coming off arrogant annoys others, especially those closer to his age. And him having trouble following rules doesn't help. And things they wouldn't mind from others (really none of his team mates is really interested if someone's shoes are on the floor, but having everyone's shoes on the floor would make a lot of extra work for the janitor, hence the rule) they do mind from the difficult child because they don't like him in the first place. And of course any transgression that would for example make everyone have to wait or something like that really annoys everyone. And it works against him that he is in the absolute bottom of the team's pecking order, but some of the others think he is favoured over them. And some of the guys who really don't like him are very popular in the team. So it is an unfortunate situation. Coaches and team captains can tell others to suck it up, but it could end up so that it would be revenged to difficult child behind their backs, and he would feel himself even more miserable and unwanted. Coaches can intervene only so much without making it look like favouritism and it backfiring, and older, high in the pecking order, team mates can ease the situations with using humour, making sure difficult child is not left totally alone etc. but still in the end it comes down to that somehow difficult child's relationships with his peer group in the team should improve. And they feel that only way to really accomplish that is to make difficult child's behaviour at least a bit less annoying to others. After that they may be able to work to make it better through some of the more socially talented and mature guys in his peer group. [/QUOTE]
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