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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 652223" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Weary, </p><p></p><p>You've gotten some great advice and support on this thread. I don't have anything smarter to add. I do want to say that I feel ALL of what you are saying, and have been there as well, more than once...its like a gyre.</p><p></p><p>I want to address the "I'm hungry" thing, though. Hunger is a funny thing in our incredibly well-resourced country. Some how we have the idea that we should never feel hunger and our kids particularly have a weird incapacity to tolerate even an hour or an evening of being hungry. We equate it with deprivation....I just want to say IT ISN"T THE SAME THING. People are hungry when they diet, when they stay late at work, when they got to the hotel late and the restaurant was closed. They are hungry when they travel, through time changes and when they forget to plan for food on the plane. HUNGER is different than STARVING. Hungry is not an issue...in fact I think that the inability to tolerate a little discomfort like being hungry for an evening is related to our kids inability to tolerate anything but immediate gratification, with their drugs, their texts (repeated like gun fire till we answer) their refusal to do any kind of consistent work or chore or school. </p><p></p><p>Hungry is just a thing, almost a signal of being spoiled. In the world of homelessness here there is NO lack of food, but it does require some effort to stay on top of it. She'll figure it out. I mean, if she can't be motivated to FEED herself, what is there?</p><p></p><p>I have more thoughts, especially about the regret and self doubt...but I'll have to say those later, and much of it has already been said.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you, Weary.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 652223, member: 17269"] Weary, You've gotten some great advice and support on this thread. I don't have anything smarter to add. I do want to say that I feel ALL of what you are saying, and have been there as well, more than once...its like a gyre. I want to address the "I'm hungry" thing, though. Hunger is a funny thing in our incredibly well-resourced country. Some how we have the idea that we should never feel hunger and our kids particularly have a weird incapacity to tolerate even an hour or an evening of being hungry. We equate it with deprivation....I just want to say IT ISN"T THE SAME THING. People are hungry when they diet, when they stay late at work, when they got to the hotel late and the restaurant was closed. They are hungry when they travel, through time changes and when they forget to plan for food on the plane. HUNGER is different than STARVING. Hungry is not an issue...in fact I think that the inability to tolerate a little discomfort like being hungry for an evening is related to our kids inability to tolerate anything but immediate gratification, with their drugs, their texts (repeated like gun fire till we answer) their refusal to do any kind of consistent work or chore or school. Hungry is just a thing, almost a signal of being spoiled. In the world of homelessness here there is NO lack of food, but it does require some effort to stay on top of it. She'll figure it out. I mean, if she can't be motivated to FEED herself, what is there? I have more thoughts, especially about the regret and self doubt...but I'll have to say those later, and much of it has already been said. Hugs to you, Weary. Echo [/QUOTE]
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