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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 652248" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>OMG I hate those calls. I hate the despair and self-loathing he'll come out with sometimes. What makes it worse is...he doesn't have to be this way! Get a job! Pay your bills! Quit being like this! I truly believe he chooses to stay this way, yet hates it, still has no desire to change. I guess I do understand it in a small way. I hate my cluttered house, but have no desire to clean. Sort of the same. But my life won't go downhill if my house is dirty. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Constantly. I have to constantly remind myself that he stole from us and we grounded him and then forgave him. We stole again and we cut off funds to him, yet still let him go to college. He blew off college and cost us thousands in housing, yet we forgave him and had him come home. We gave him a month to find work, it took him two or three, then I got up two hours early to make sure he got to work, then he quit. And at some point in there he stole from us again...nearly $700 cash...and tried to lie about it. It took all that for us to put him out. Now we're paying his rent, because he got a job and we co-signed the lease for him so he could have a place to sleep days and work nights. And he lost that job within a month and got arrested within days. </p><p></p><p>The worst part? While he was doing all that stealing and such at home...I liked him. I liked him better before we found the missing money than I had in years. He was working. He was nice. He actually talked to us. And he was stealing from us. </p><p></p><p>I still can't wrap my brain around it. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Ditto. </p><p></p><p>I worry constantly that this is just getting worse. Mine has until June to get work and pay his rent himself. In June his lease is over. In June his phone is cut off. To my knowledge, he isn't even looking. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to you...from one "weary mom" to another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 652248, member: 17309"] OMG I hate those calls. I hate the despair and self-loathing he'll come out with sometimes. What makes it worse is...he doesn't have to be this way! Get a job! Pay your bills! Quit being like this! I truly believe he chooses to stay this way, yet hates it, still has no desire to change. I guess I do understand it in a small way. I hate my cluttered house, but have no desire to clean. Sort of the same. But my life won't go downhill if my house is dirty. Constantly. I have to constantly remind myself that he stole from us and we grounded him and then forgave him. We stole again and we cut off funds to him, yet still let him go to college. He blew off college and cost us thousands in housing, yet we forgave him and had him come home. We gave him a month to find work, it took him two or three, then I got up two hours early to make sure he got to work, then he quit. And at some point in there he stole from us again...nearly $700 cash...and tried to lie about it. It took all that for us to put him out. Now we're paying his rent, because he got a job and we co-signed the lease for him so he could have a place to sleep days and work nights. And he lost that job within a month and got arrested within days. The worst part? While he was doing all that stealing and such at home...I liked him. I liked him better before we found the missing money than I had in years. He was working. He was nice. He actually talked to us. And he was stealing from us. I still can't wrap my brain around it. Ditto. I worry constantly that this is just getting worse. Mine has until June to get work and pay his rent himself. In June his lease is over. In June his phone is cut off. To my knowledge, he isn't even looking. Hugs to you...from one "weary mom" to another. [/QUOTE]
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