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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 739512" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This was a terrible story.</p><p></p><p>I feel such animus towards these people. They set your son up. They set him up to only kick him down, and spit on him in the street. And then, they kicked him more.</p><p></p><p>I would have wanted to beat the <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> out of this man. Too. Oh? Wrong? Sorry.</p><p></p><p>There is only one redeeming aspect. Your son has to face reality about his Dad, about his own lack of control and temper, his sadness, the abuse, etc.</p><p></p><p>Oh. I am feeling for this young man.</p><p></p><p>The thing that has to be done now, is for him to find a safe place to lick his wounds and from which to regroup. Do you know where he is now? Is there a family member or friend that can put him up for a week? </p><p></p><p>Real life has asserted itself. There is no turning away. </p><p></p><p>This is what I would counsel him to go: it is my answer to most anything. Job Corps. Other mothers say it is horrible. I love it. My son went. It is a free, federal job training program for young people 26 and under. It is residential. There are some great trainings, including electrician, computers, nursing, and lots of others. Entry level trainings. They feed them. They supervise them.</p><p></p><p>When my son acted weird, they carried him to get evaluated for possible hospitalization, and they brought him back. Their range of tolerance is amazing.</p><p></p><p>Other mothers say it is ghetto and horrible...and there is drugs. My son had no problems. Oh. He did hate it. But he did it. When he was 18. I told him he could not come home until he completed a training. He did.</p><p> </p><p>There are ethnic and class differences to navigate. Yes. There are all of the problems that you find in any city. Yes. But this program is designed to give a chance to kids who are poor and struggling, and it does. They will take kids with special education issues, disability, drug and gang histories, records, you name it.</p><p></p><p>It could take a few weeks to get in. There are sites all over the country. My son went to a center in the middle of SF Bay. </p><p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">The other thing I would consider if I was your son is the military. If he is able to clean up his record. But this will take time.</span></p><p></p><p>Could he go to a domestic violence agency for help? Maybe they could put him up in a shelter and give him what he needs to stabilize.</p><p></p><p>We need to turn this around. He is a domestic violence victim. He is a victim of child abuse over years and years. He could go to the district attorney in the county where he lived with his father and file charges against him. There is no statute of limitations.</p><p></p><p>With that he could get victims of crime benefits, which include extensive psychotherapy for the effects of the abuse under the victim witness program. Treatments for trauma. Somatic treatments. Or expressive arts therapies. Very, very good therapists work in this program. He would see people in private practice and the government would pay.</p><p></p><p>He is a victim of a crime. Child abuse over years and years. He was beaten and humiliated. And it happened yet again. Oh. I feel for this child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 739512, member: 18958"] This was a terrible story. I feel such animus towards these people. They set your son up. They set him up to only kick him down, and spit on him in the street. And then, they kicked him more. I would have wanted to beat the :censored2: out of this man. Too. Oh? Wrong? Sorry. There is only one redeeming aspect. Your son has to face reality about his Dad, about his own lack of control and temper, his sadness, the abuse, etc. Oh. I am feeling for this young man. The thing that has to be done now, is for him to find a safe place to lick his wounds and from which to regroup. Do you know where he is now? Is there a family member or friend that can put him up for a week? Real life has asserted itself. There is no turning away. This is what I would counsel him to go: it is my answer to most anything. Job Corps. Other mothers say it is horrible. I love it. My son went. It is a free, federal job training program for young people 26 and under. It is residential. There are some great trainings, including electrician, computers, nursing, and lots of others. Entry level trainings. They feed them. They supervise them. When my son acted weird, they carried him to get evaluated for possible hospitalization, and they brought him back. Their range of tolerance is amazing. Other mothers say it is ghetto and horrible...and there is drugs. My son had no problems. Oh. He did hate it. But he did it. When he was 18. I told him he could not come home until he completed a training. He did. There are ethnic and class differences to navigate. Yes. There are all of the problems that you find in any city. Yes. But this program is designed to give a chance to kids who are poor and struggling, and it does. They will take kids with special education issues, disability, drug and gang histories, records, you name it. It could take a few weeks to get in. There are sites all over the country. My son went to a center in the middle of SF Bay. [LEFT][COLOR=rgb(20, 20, 20)] The other thing I would consider if I was your son is the military. If he is able to clean up his record. But this will take time.[/COLOR][/LEFT] Could he go to a domestic violence agency for help? Maybe they could put him up in a shelter and give him what he needs to stabilize. We need to turn this around. He is a domestic violence victim. He is a victim of child abuse over years and years. He could go to the district attorney in the county where he lived with his father and file charges against him. There is no statute of limitations. With that he could get victims of crime benefits, which include extensive psychotherapy for the effects of the abuse under the victim witness program. Treatments for trauma. Somatic treatments. Or expressive arts therapies. Very, very good therapists work in this program. He would see people in private practice and the government would pay. He is a victim of a crime. Child abuse over years and years. He was beaten and humiliated. And it happened yet again. Oh. I feel for this child. [/QUOTE]
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