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The book I've been reading: narcissts and socipaths
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 430627"><p><em>"Not all sociopaths are "made," of course--but some are, and this is how it can happen. I think that there has to be an innate inclination as well, though, as his younger brother, raised exactly the same way, is a really fine easy child, a wonderful kids. It's a blend of nature and nurture, I think, except where the "nature" side of things--i.e., innate inclination--is so strong that "nurture" doesn't matter, as in outright psychopaths." </em></p><p> </p><p>Makes perfect sense to me!</p><p> </p><p>I think the author of the book would say that it usually takes a combination of forces to produce the sociopath. </p><p> </p><p>Some of these likely include: genetic tendencies, stress or trauma in childhood AND either a lack of logical consequences in parenting or even worse a parent who puts their child on a pedestal. Perhaps it is a perfect storm "kind of thing."</p><p> </p><p>My relative fits this description well.</p><p> </p><p>It is unfortunate that this happens. I know even as a child, I use to look at this mother and wonder "what in the world is she thinking????" Her young adult son would terrorize family members and she barely said a word. </p><p> </p><p>But, as a mother myself, it does kinda bug me that so much of this is put "on" the moms with little to no mention of fathers. </p><p> </p><p>Where are the dads in all of this? And a single mother with a child with these tendencies is up against A LOT! </p><p> </p><p>Divorced or not, fathers should be a part of raising children and parents need to act as a united front making sure the child receives not only proper nurturing, but logical and appropriate consequences to inappropriate behaviors/choices.</p><p> </p><p>When Dad passes away....it is very hard. In my own family, first there was a divorce and then the father died. Not sure it really mattered though...this man was uninvolved and his mom was not strong enough to cope with her very difficult son and it just escalated from there. All so very sad. </p><p> </p><p>All these years later, family members are trying to deal with it all. </p><p> </p><p>I refer particularly to 8-10 on that list below! It worked for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 430627"] [I]"Not all sociopaths are "made," of course--but some are, and this is how it can happen. I think that there has to be an innate inclination as well, though, as his younger brother, raised exactly the same way, is a really fine easy child, a wonderful kids. It's a blend of nature and nurture, I think, except where the "nature" side of things--i.e., innate inclination--is so strong that "nurture" doesn't matter, as in outright psychopaths." [/I] Makes perfect sense to me! I think the author of the book would say that it usually takes a combination of forces to produce the sociopath. Some of these likely include: genetic tendencies, stress or trauma in childhood AND either a lack of logical consequences in parenting or even worse a parent who puts their child on a pedestal. Perhaps it is a perfect storm "kind of thing." My relative fits this description well. It is unfortunate that this happens. I know even as a child, I use to look at this mother and wonder "what in the world is she thinking????" Her young adult son would terrorize family members and she barely said a word. But, as a mother myself, it does kinda bug me that so much of this is put "on" the moms with little to no mention of fathers. Where are the dads in all of this? And a single mother with a child with these tendencies is up against A LOT! Divorced or not, fathers should be a part of raising children and parents need to act as a united front making sure the child receives not only proper nurturing, but logical and appropriate consequences to inappropriate behaviors/choices. When Dad passes away....it is very hard. In my own family, first there was a divorce and then the father died. Not sure it really mattered though...this man was uninvolved and his mom was not strong enough to cope with her very difficult son and it just escalated from there. All so very sad. All these years later, family members are trying to deal with it all. I refer particularly to 8-10 on that list below! It worked for me. [/QUOTE]
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