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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 294447" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Marg--</p><p> </p><p>I think you are absolutely correct. I think that the boss has indeed been allowing her to take a bit of candy here and there. I also think that difficult child has painted us as completely unreasonable, overly-strict and controlling. My relationship with the boss only extrends to the "hello wave"....while husband has had a few conversations with her.</p><p> </p><p>We firmly believe that the boss has no idea the actual amount of stuff that has been coming home. husband knows that the boss has NO tolerance for thieves....and one of their first conversations had been when the boss found difficult child taking something without permission, and difficult child explained that she thought she was allowed to help herself to anything she wanted. After that incident, we think that difficult child has been a lot more careful not to get caught.</p><p> </p><p>Trouble is, we cannot prove what was taken WITH permission and what was taken WITHOUT permission. (and so much of it has already been consumed that we cannot simply go in with a big box of assorted candies--it would just be wrappers).</p><p> </p><p>Additionally, difficult child was hoping this volunteer opportunity would earn her a letter of recommendation in order to get a paying job. The boss has been really pleased with her. The boss has also spoken to husband about offering HIM a job. So we didn't want to create trouble un-necessarily.</p><p> </p><p>We decided that our goal was not to get difficult child fired and/or charged with theft based solely upon OUR suspicians. husband simply sent a carefully worded email to the boss, which mentioned that we are finding an awful lot of candy, gum, makeup and other items coming home and we just want to ensure that our daughter is following the boss's policy. With that, we felt that if the boss decided to fire her--it was the boss's decision.</p><p> </p><p>Instead, we received an email in reply which sounds like the boss is giving her the benefit of the doubt. husband and I decided that if the boss does not want to pursue it any farther....that is her decision....we will not be pushing the issue. We notified her of our findings, and that's it.</p><p> </p><p>As for me, I have begun checking her pockets each day when I pick her up. If difficult child wants to sneak anything else home, she will have to hide it somewhere else. Hopefully, I will not have to escalate to strip searching...</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyF</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 294447, member: 6546"] Marg-- I think you are absolutely correct. I think that the boss has indeed been allowing her to take a bit of candy here and there. I also think that difficult child has painted us as completely unreasonable, overly-strict and controlling. My relationship with the boss only extrends to the "hello wave"....while husband has had a few conversations with her. We firmly believe that the boss has no idea the actual amount of stuff that has been coming home. husband knows that the boss has NO tolerance for thieves....and one of their first conversations had been when the boss found difficult child taking something without permission, and difficult child explained that she thought she was allowed to help herself to anything she wanted. After that incident, we think that difficult child has been a lot more careful not to get caught. Trouble is, we cannot prove what was taken WITH permission and what was taken WITHOUT permission. (and so much of it has already been consumed that we cannot simply go in with a big box of assorted candies--it would just be wrappers). Additionally, difficult child was hoping this volunteer opportunity would earn her a letter of recommendation in order to get a paying job. The boss has been really pleased with her. The boss has also spoken to husband about offering HIM a job. So we didn't want to create trouble un-necessarily. We decided that our goal was not to get difficult child fired and/or charged with theft based solely upon OUR suspicians. husband simply sent a carefully worded email to the boss, which mentioned that we are finding an awful lot of candy, gum, makeup and other items coming home and we just want to ensure that our daughter is following the boss's policy. With that, we felt that if the boss decided to fire her--it was the boss's decision. Instead, we received an email in reply which sounds like the boss is giving her the benefit of the doubt. husband and I decided that if the boss does not want to pursue it any farther....that is her decision....we will not be pushing the issue. We notified her of our findings, and that's it. As for me, I have begun checking her pockets each day when I pick her up. If difficult child wants to sneak anything else home, she will have to hide it somewhere else. Hopefully, I will not have to escalate to strip searching... --DaisyF [/QUOTE]
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