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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 386312"><p>My difficult child, who is 11, has been difficult from day one, like your daughter. Colicky, cried all day long for what seemed to me no reason at all. He was, and still is, a very rigid chil. If we said we were doing A, B, and C, and then changed the order in which we were going to do them it would send him into a tail spin. I was told he has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and needed Prozac because of his rigidity, but I was not really happy with the doctor who diagnosed him, so I declined the medications and left. This past summer found another doctor, a really good one this time, who evaluated difficult child and diagnosed general anxiety disorder and ODD. He completely fits the ODD description: defiant, disrespectful, constant lying. He has all of the "sypmtoms". We chose to put him on medications for the anxiety, with the idea that if we can get the anxiety under control, we can work on the defiant behavior because we thought that the anxiety is the driving force behind the ODD. We only started the medications in late August, and we have uped his dose a couple of times since then. It's been little baby steps, but in some ways I do see improvement. Last night he was actually able to come to me and say, "Can we talk about something, please?" rather than scream and make nasty demands.</p><p> </p><p>As much as I wish he would, I know that he is never going to be able to behave like easy child. He is just not wired that way. But, I am hoping that with time he will improve to the point where spending time with him will become a joy rather than the chore that it has been for years.</p><p> </p><p>Have your daughter get a thorough evaluation by a really good neuropsychiatrist. See what he or she recommends and then go from there. A few months ago I was where you are now so I completely understand the frustration and anger that you are feeling. Read the Ross Green book. I'm still working in implementing it, but I do manage to do it right, it is really helpful.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck.</p><p> </p><p>Pam</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 386312"] My difficult child, who is 11, has been difficult from day one, like your daughter. Colicky, cried all day long for what seemed to me no reason at all. He was, and still is, a very rigid chil. If we said we were doing A, B, and C, and then changed the order in which we were going to do them it would send him into a tail spin. I was told he has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and needed Prozac because of his rigidity, but I was not really happy with the doctor who diagnosed him, so I declined the medications and left. This past summer found another doctor, a really good one this time, who evaluated difficult child and diagnosed general anxiety disorder and ODD. He completely fits the ODD description: defiant, disrespectful, constant lying. He has all of the "sypmtoms". We chose to put him on medications for the anxiety, with the idea that if we can get the anxiety under control, we can work on the defiant behavior because we thought that the anxiety is the driving force behind the ODD. We only started the medications in late August, and we have uped his dose a couple of times since then. It's been little baby steps, but in some ways I do see improvement. Last night he was actually able to come to me and say, "Can we talk about something, please?" rather than scream and make nasty demands. As much as I wish he would, I know that he is never going to be able to behave like easy child. He is just not wired that way. But, I am hoping that with time he will improve to the point where spending time with him will become a joy rather than the chore that it has been for years. Have your daughter get a thorough evaluation by a really good neuropsychiatrist. See what he or she recommends and then go from there. A few months ago I was where you are now so I completely understand the frustration and anger that you are feeling. Read the Ross Green book. I'm still working in implementing it, but I do manage to do it right, it is really helpful. Good luck. Pam [/QUOTE]
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