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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 386329" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>There are two possibilities here (looking purely logically).</p><p></p><p>1) ODD is a stand-alone diagnosis, something the kid was born with, something that simply does not/has not responded to anything and with no underlying disorder. </p><p></p><p>OR</p><p></p><p>2) ODD is something which at times may appear to be a stand-alone diagnosis but in reality is a child's response to the combination of an underlying, often unrecognised, disorder (any one of a number) which mean that the usual discipline methods a parent might use, which are considered acceptable and effective discipline methods for most other children, actually bring on the ODD-like symptoms in such a case.</p><p></p><p>If it is 1), then you can do nothing except roll with the punches and wait until the child is 18 and you can throw them onto the streets.</p><p></p><p>But if it is 2), there is hope. All you have to do is identify the parameters of the underlying problems and find a different way to interact with the child.</p><p></p><p>Just because you have not been able to identify an underlying disorder, does not mean it does not exist.</p><p></p><p>You can choose to live with hope, even if you secretly think it's not got a lot of chance. If you keep looking, you might find some answers you can use. ODD, stand-alone, is not an answer you can use. it just IS. It might explain, but it does't help. Option 2) can help.</p><p></p><p>We chose option 2). We were originally told our child was unteachable and unreachable. They were wrong.</p><p></p><p>If you know you have to keep going until the child is 18 (at least) then a bit of hope is not a bad thing.</p><p></p><p>Read the book. It might also give you some hope. it did for us.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 386329, member: 1991"] There are two possibilities here (looking purely logically). 1) ODD is a stand-alone diagnosis, something the kid was born with, something that simply does not/has not responded to anything and with no underlying disorder. OR 2) ODD is something which at times may appear to be a stand-alone diagnosis but in reality is a child's response to the combination of an underlying, often unrecognised, disorder (any one of a number) which mean that the usual discipline methods a parent might use, which are considered acceptable and effective discipline methods for most other children, actually bring on the ODD-like symptoms in such a case. If it is 1), then you can do nothing except roll with the punches and wait until the child is 18 and you can throw them onto the streets. But if it is 2), there is hope. All you have to do is identify the parameters of the underlying problems and find a different way to interact with the child. Just because you have not been able to identify an underlying disorder, does not mean it does not exist. You can choose to live with hope, even if you secretly think it's not got a lot of chance. If you keep looking, you might find some answers you can use. ODD, stand-alone, is not an answer you can use. it just IS. It might explain, but it does't help. Option 2) can help. We chose option 2). We were originally told our child was unteachable and unreachable. They were wrong. If you know you have to keep going until the child is 18 (at least) then a bit of hope is not a bad thing. Read the book. It might also give you some hope. it did for us. Marg [/QUOTE]
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