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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 390043" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>School assessments are often disappointing. They are not generally so well equipped to test to the level of scrutiny our kids often need. However, a school assessment can be used as a springboard for a later private assessment - we've several times taken school results to a private psychologist who looked at the results then gave other tests specifically targetting the areas of poor result, or any areas of special interest. Because the private psychologist did not have to repeat all the testing, it was able to look more deeply for the same costs to us.</p><p></p><p>I also am wondering about possible Asperger's. Also, if Plan B is not working, then go back to the book. He is seeming to be resistant possibly out of fear or not understanding what you are trying to do - he still sees the situation as you vs him. The aim is to show him (not just tell, but show) that you are there as a support, you are a tool he can use to get what he needs. But he needs to learn to communicate those needs to you more appropriately. He needs first to see you in the helper role and not as disciplinarian primarily. Discipline as you know it probably has to go out the window utterly, but there can still be some level of management. It turns into teaching him to self-manage. But your aim is to engage him in this process and I agree, professional help may be valuable. Try to find someone with experience/capability with CPS. Or also possibly CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy).</p><p></p><p>Good luck, keep us informed. There is a wealth of experience here and you have done us a favour by starting up a valuable discussion.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 390043, member: 1991"] School assessments are often disappointing. They are not generally so well equipped to test to the level of scrutiny our kids often need. However, a school assessment can be used as a springboard for a later private assessment - we've several times taken school results to a private psychologist who looked at the results then gave other tests specifically targetting the areas of poor result, or any areas of special interest. Because the private psychologist did not have to repeat all the testing, it was able to look more deeply for the same costs to us. I also am wondering about possible Asperger's. Also, if Plan B is not working, then go back to the book. He is seeming to be resistant possibly out of fear or not understanding what you are trying to do - he still sees the situation as you vs him. The aim is to show him (not just tell, but show) that you are there as a support, you are a tool he can use to get what he needs. But he needs to learn to communicate those needs to you more appropriately. He needs first to see you in the helper role and not as disciplinarian primarily. Discipline as you know it probably has to go out the window utterly, but there can still be some level of management. It turns into teaching him to self-manage. But your aim is to engage him in this process and I agree, professional help may be valuable. Try to find someone with experience/capability with CPS. Or also possibly CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). Good luck, keep us informed. There is a wealth of experience here and you have done us a favour by starting up a valuable discussion. Marg [/QUOTE]
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