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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 524952" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>CG I appreciate the thoughtfulness of your post and, of course, I have been there done that with the most loved easy child morphing into something entirely unexpected. It's still painful and it has been ten years. Sigh.</p><p></p><p>on the other hand, as much as we all support detachment I think you are too new to this family s.a. road to utilize or attempt to utilize full detachment mode. Although I really truly don't envy you. you are still in a place of hope. Protecting yourself is important but she is so young and so new to the difficult child road that I encourage you to explore every option that "could" help reverse this course. It can happen. It has happened. It is more likely to happen if you can maintain the bond and your emotional equilibrium.</p><p></p><p>Many of us have spent most of our savings exploring programs, new interests etc. A few have had success. My only success has been that I have been able to keep the one on one loving bond. Yep, he used alot of drugs, he became an alcoholic, he was arrested and in the local jail. All those things I never ever anticipated to be part of my life. Yet he "owns" his choices and his consequences and tells counelors as well as bad fanny friends "My Mama is the most important person in my life...with-o her I'd probably be in prison."</p><p></p><p>Guess what I'm trying to say is protect your emotions but try to remember who she really is and by your actions let her know you believe she'll be OK again. Sorry, a bit rambling, but sincere. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 524952, member: 35"] CG I appreciate the thoughtfulness of your post and, of course, I have been there done that with the most loved easy child morphing into something entirely unexpected. It's still painful and it has been ten years. Sigh. on the other hand, as much as we all support detachment I think you are too new to this family s.a. road to utilize or attempt to utilize full detachment mode. Although I really truly don't envy you. you are still in a place of hope. Protecting yourself is important but she is so young and so new to the difficult child road that I encourage you to explore every option that "could" help reverse this course. It can happen. It has happened. It is more likely to happen if you can maintain the bond and your emotional equilibrium. Many of us have spent most of our savings exploring programs, new interests etc. A few have had success. My only success has been that I have been able to keep the one on one loving bond. Yep, he used alot of drugs, he became an alcoholic, he was arrested and in the local jail. All those things I never ever anticipated to be part of my life. Yet he "owns" his choices and his consequences and tells counelors as well as bad fanny friends "My Mama is the most important person in my life...with-o her I'd probably be in prison." Guess what I'm trying to say is protect your emotions but try to remember who she really is and by your actions let her know you believe she'll be OK again. Sorry, a bit rambling, but sincere. DDD [/QUOTE]
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