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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 538212" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>My detachment failed at midnight when I couldn't get my mind to stop thinking about it and sleep! </p><p></p><p>Mentally I can accept that it is what it is. This is just Steph. She didn't too it to spite me and purposely hurt me. I'm just that after thought in life. </p><p></p><p>Both Ant and Steph have had Grandma telling them for years that I was just the step-mom and that they didn't need to listen or respect me. And try as I do, I can't seem to get past that wall that has been built. They love me....to a point. But to put Mom in a place of honor....not happening. At least not until they become parents and really understand what it is like to love a child.</p><p></p><p>So, I keep repeating my motto.... It is what it is. I can't change anything. I can't control anything. I won't manipulate anything just to get my way. So....it is what it is. Just wish it didn't hurt so much. </p><p></p><p>So, I'm hurt. husband is fuming mad. husband loves me so much and anyone who disrespects me or hurts me ends up on his bad list. And his daughter has the #1 spot on the bad list right now. </p><p></p><p>It doesn't help when she has a bad attitude about our two rule. They are (1) only day the night at friends on Friday & Saturday, (2) be home by midnight on the other nights. That's all we ask of her. We pay her to pick up the dog yard. We provide a cell phone and pay for her car insurance. She has use of the whole house and all that is there. She's welcome to have friends over all the time. And we will gladly feed them and let them have full access to the house. It's a really nice living arrangement. </p><p></p><p>husband had a talk with her yesterday morning about how she's not independent. You are independent when you pay your way. As long as you are living off of someone - you are dependent on them. And you need to treat them with respect. </p><p></p><p>For the first month that she was home she did great. She was polite, respectful, she had her friends staying with her at our house. All was good. Then in the middle of May things changed. She started staying away and having attitude. Oh, and I think she's going to lose her job soon. </p><p></p><p>She's so obsessed with hacky-sack that when she was out a farmers market to do a taste testing job, she got bored and played hacky-sack out in their parking lot. Sounds like an easy way to get fired to me. </p><p></p><p>I'm ready for my vacation - husband & I are getting in the truck and leaving for 2 weeks. Of course, we already cut out one leg of your trip so that we could put on Steph's party (and she's was a brat through the whole thing). </p><p></p><p>Will life ever have a happy moment that isn't contaminated with the crud of GFGdom??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 538212, member: 65"] My detachment failed at midnight when I couldn't get my mind to stop thinking about it and sleep! Mentally I can accept that it is what it is. This is just Steph. She didn't too it to spite me and purposely hurt me. I'm just that after thought in life. Both Ant and Steph have had Grandma telling them for years that I was just the step-mom and that they didn't need to listen or respect me. And try as I do, I can't seem to get past that wall that has been built. They love me....to a point. But to put Mom in a place of honor....not happening. At least not until they become parents and really understand what it is like to love a child. So, I keep repeating my motto.... It is what it is. I can't change anything. I can't control anything. I won't manipulate anything just to get my way. So....it is what it is. Just wish it didn't hurt so much. So, I'm hurt. husband is fuming mad. husband loves me so much and anyone who disrespects me or hurts me ends up on his bad list. And his daughter has the #1 spot on the bad list right now. It doesn't help when she has a bad attitude about our two rule. They are (1) only day the night at friends on Friday & Saturday, (2) be home by midnight on the other nights. That's all we ask of her. We pay her to pick up the dog yard. We provide a cell phone and pay for her car insurance. She has use of the whole house and all that is there. She's welcome to have friends over all the time. And we will gladly feed them and let them have full access to the house. It's a really nice living arrangement. husband had a talk with her yesterday morning about how she's not independent. You are independent when you pay your way. As long as you are living off of someone - you are dependent on them. And you need to treat them with respect. For the first month that she was home she did great. She was polite, respectful, she had her friends staying with her at our house. All was good. Then in the middle of May things changed. She started staying away and having attitude. Oh, and I think she's going to lose her job soon. She's so obsessed with hacky-sack that when she was out a farmers market to do a taste testing job, she got bored and played hacky-sack out in their parking lot. Sounds like an easy way to get fired to me. I'm ready for my vacation - husband & I are getting in the truck and leaving for 2 weeks. Of course, we already cut out one leg of your trip so that we could put on Steph's party (and she's was a brat through the whole thing). Will life ever have a happy moment that isn't contaminated with the crud of GFGdom?? [/QUOTE]
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