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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 539215" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>RE,</p><p>Would you be interested in researching an adult home, primarily suited for mentally ill people rather than the elderly for your daughter? As I've written before, my brother is mentally ill, and lives in an adult home. It's about as good as it gets for people like him. Their shelter, food, and even doctor visits and medications are covered. He has SS/Medicaid. We give my brother a stipend to spend on cigarettes, extras, etc., and I give him instant coffee, snacks, gum, etc. I know he's in a safe place, and it's funny, but he's with other people like himself and he actually has better interpersonal relationships than he would have anywhere else. I pick him up to visit us every week, and I even do his laundry while he's visiting. He cannot work, but there are other residents there who do have p/t jobs. The place also offers therapy (including vocational therapy) right on premises. In our case, my brother's disability payment is about $250 less than his rent for this place, so we make up the difference. It is well worth it for peace of mind. He has a private room, which works out fine for him, but other residents choose to share a room, and it costs less. </p><p></p><p>The reason I suggest this, is that you and SO can move away with a clear head once granddaughter is settled, and you will know difficult child is safe. It's certainly not a perfect solution, but it has worked for us for the past 8 years. I still feel bad that he can't live with us, but the chaos would be too much.</p><p>Don't know if your difficult child would even want to consider such a thing, but at this point, it may be worth looking into.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 539215, member: 13882"] RE, Would you be interested in researching an adult home, primarily suited for mentally ill people rather than the elderly for your daughter? As I've written before, my brother is mentally ill, and lives in an adult home. It's about as good as it gets for people like him. Their shelter, food, and even doctor visits and medications are covered. He has SS/Medicaid. We give my brother a stipend to spend on cigarettes, extras, etc., and I give him instant coffee, snacks, gum, etc. I know he's in a safe place, and it's funny, but he's with other people like himself and he actually has better interpersonal relationships than he would have anywhere else. I pick him up to visit us every week, and I even do his laundry while he's visiting. He cannot work, but there are other residents there who do have p/t jobs. The place also offers therapy (including vocational therapy) right on premises. In our case, my brother's disability payment is about $250 less than his rent for this place, so we make up the difference. It is well worth it for peace of mind. He has a private room, which works out fine for him, but other residents choose to share a room, and it costs less. The reason I suggest this, is that you and SO can move away with a clear head once granddaughter is settled, and you will know difficult child is safe. It's certainly not a perfect solution, but it has worked for us for the past 8 years. I still feel bad that he can't live with us, but the chaos would be too much. Don't know if your difficult child would even want to consider such a thing, but at this point, it may be worth looking into. [/QUOTE]
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