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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 238512" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>Daisyface: Hi! I think the main thing that shows learning in adults is the awareness that we are responcible for our part. And as we are not really perfict and do not know it all we find ourselves in some moments unaware or unprepared to tactfully avoid,prevent, or be on target through an oppertunity to learn something.</p><p></p><p>I am not savy to the detachment teachings refered to by others. I think I understand what they refer to in terms of givng onesself permission to accept whatever is in the past and rise to the occation of today with as much objectivity as you can muster.</p><p></p><p>On this board I thing the most emotionally burdened moments center on that time when as a parent WE WANT HELP. It is as if our own need for better understanding, information, diagnosis, treatment, a nap, the safe place for our child that is not with us right now....that these make us crazy with emotional pain.</p><p>We are human. Not only do we not have all the answers, eyes in the back of our heads (despite the rumors), and some of us utterly lack instinct, sometimes we are just distracted ourselves and miss.</p><p>The most painful guilt is when we wish we had the answer (or whatever) and we can do nothing nothing at all. Or the most painfull guilt is when we did know what we needed to know but we did the thing that was wronge and we had that "i knew it " feeling to begin with and we did the wrong anyway. The most painful guilt is the one that absorbs the colors of our moment, any moment.</p><p>I think of that picadillo for parents when we want our child arrested, or committed for observation, have plenty of guilt type feeling.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 238512, member: 6271"] Daisyface: Hi! I think the main thing that shows learning in adults is the awareness that we are responcible for our part. And as we are not really perfict and do not know it all we find ourselves in some moments unaware or unprepared to tactfully avoid,prevent, or be on target through an oppertunity to learn something. I am not savy to the detachment teachings refered to by others. I think I understand what they refer to in terms of givng onesself permission to accept whatever is in the past and rise to the occation of today with as much objectivity as you can muster. On this board I thing the most emotionally burdened moments center on that time when as a parent WE WANT HELP. It is as if our own need for better understanding, information, diagnosis, treatment, a nap, the safe place for our child that is not with us right now....that these make us crazy with emotional pain. We are human. Not only do we not have all the answers, eyes in the back of our heads (despite the rumors), and some of us utterly lack instinct, sometimes we are just distracted ourselves and miss. The most painful guilt is when we wish we had the answer (or whatever) and we can do nothing nothing at all. Or the most painfull guilt is when we did know what we needed to know but we did the thing that was wronge and we had that "i knew it " feeling to begin with and we did the wrong anyway. The most painful guilt is the one that absorbs the colors of our moment, any moment. I think of that picadillo for parents when we want our child arrested, or committed for observation, have plenty of guilt type feeling. [/QUOTE]
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