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<blockquote data-quote="compassion" data-source="post: 253717" data-attributes="member: 6393"><p>I am so there!!! There is so much anger but where I am at today is largely anger at the illness. I am greivng big time. So is husband, and so is difficult child. </p><p> We are definely experincing PSTD. husband and I see theraist weekly and it helps us deal with the stress/the realites.</p><p> Forgivenessa nd trust take a very long time. My difficult child is still quite ill/unstable but getting more stable. I ttolay relate to how hard it can be inthe stable times. I do know though that very firm boundaris are essential. For an example, I willnot promise she can come home until I see in HER actions (not words) that she is albe to not run, rage storm on me, steal, etc.for6 weeks. </p><p> It is sitll very recent for us: we are still dealing with creditors from her stealing thousands when in manic state, sealign with her hopitalzaion currently.</p><p> Al-anon, Nami, theapy, my religious practices help me. I try to seprate the illness from her (not alwsy easy). I am enforcing boundaries with her and saying I messages.</p><p> I have safe peopoe I can express my anger to. I try not to react to her . I cannot reason with her illness. I do love her but the boundaries have to be so very tight. </p><p> My heart is actaully full of joy the more I can detach and accept her illness. I canlove her while putting the family's safety and comapssion for the family as a top priorty.</p><p> I am trying to stay as present and postive in my contact with her as possible. Comapssion</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="compassion, post: 253717, member: 6393"] I am so there!!! There is so much anger but where I am at today is largely anger at the illness. I am greivng big time. So is husband, and so is difficult child. We are definely experincing PSTD. husband and I see theraist weekly and it helps us deal with the stress/the realites. Forgivenessa nd trust take a very long time. My difficult child is still quite ill/unstable but getting more stable. I ttolay relate to how hard it can be inthe stable times. I do know though that very firm boundaris are essential. For an example, I willnot promise she can come home until I see in HER actions (not words) that she is albe to not run, rage storm on me, steal, etc.for6 weeks. It is sitll very recent for us: we are still dealing with creditors from her stealing thousands when in manic state, sealign with her hopitalzaion currently. Al-anon, Nami, theapy, my religious practices help me. I try to seprate the illness from her (not alwsy easy). I am enforcing boundaries with her and saying I messages. I have safe peopoe I can express my anger to. I try not to react to her . I cannot reason with her illness. I do love her but the boundaries have to be so very tight. My heart is actaully full of joy the more I can detach and accept her illness. I canlove her while putting the family's safety and comapssion for the family as a top priorty. I am trying to stay as present and postive in my contact with her as possible. Comapssion [/QUOTE]
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