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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 369568" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I understand and sympathize. I loved my Mother but when she came to visit it made me nervous because she always was SO immaculate that suddenly I began to see the dust on the baseboards, the improperly folded towels etc. etc.</p><p> </p><p>on the other hand, I am perceived as an evil mother in law by one daughter in law and our relationship is extremely polite. When they visit I make sure to prepare things she will eat and am extra careful not to mention anything that could cause hard feelings. Why? Well.....my son married her and has chosen to stay married to her. She's not going to change and neither am I. Somehow she doesn't "get" that I raised her husband to be the man he is....and I don't want him to feel</p><p>uncomfortable in his family home.</p><p> </p><p>So my advice is preplan as much as possible. Try to come up with activities that might be of interest (local bingo</p><p>games, perhaps). Thank her for folding clothes and laughingly say "boy, you're right about that" when she comments on you needing new underwear or towels or whatever. Treat her like you would an important stranger</p><p>for the visit. Once they are gone you can exhale (or have a Cutty) and be proud that you did your best for husband.</p><p>It ain't easy but it will be worth it. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 369568, member: 35"] I understand and sympathize. I loved my Mother but when she came to visit it made me nervous because she always was SO immaculate that suddenly I began to see the dust on the baseboards, the improperly folded towels etc. etc. on the other hand, I am perceived as an evil mother in law by one daughter in law and our relationship is extremely polite. When they visit I make sure to prepare things she will eat and am extra careful not to mention anything that could cause hard feelings. Why? Well.....my son married her and has chosen to stay married to her. She's not going to change and neither am I. Somehow she doesn't "get" that I raised her husband to be the man he is....and I don't want him to feel uncomfortable in his family home. So my advice is preplan as much as possible. Try to come up with activities that might be of interest (local bingo games, perhaps). Thank her for folding clothes and laughingly say "boy, you're right about that" when she comments on you needing new underwear or towels or whatever. Treat her like you would an important stranger for the visit. Once they are gone you can exhale (or have a Cutty) and be proud that you did your best for husband. It ain't easy but it will be worth it. DDD [/QUOTE]
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