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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 505137" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Oh TL, </p><p>I am SO sorry to hear of the latest re your difficult child. </p><p></p><p>I understand about being mad instead of sad. When I am mad I am thinking about what is best for me (usually after feeling "used" by difficult child) but when I am sad I am thinking about all the many ways I can help difficult child, stop difficult child from using, etc. And the truth is...</p><p>We are not responsible for our difficult child's sobriety, EVER. </p><p>I know that can be so very difficult to accept. But your difficult child has been exposed to the "solution". He has had drug treatment and sober house support system, etc. He knows where the help is. Sometimes that is the best of our best ya know. Just to be able to point them in that direction...as we can't walk the walk for them, open their eyes to see or force them to look clearly at themselves. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry your difficult child is at this "fork in the road" Again! </p><p>We want so much for them to once and for all care about their lives enough to stick with the program. </p><p></p><p>They have to get brutally honest with themselves..."To thine own self be true" and really see for themselves/be convinced for themselves. All the ways that we would like to own/take responsibility for their sobriety are in vain...as the decision for our difficult child's to use or not to use is completely out of our control and always has been no matter what comforts or discomforts are in their lives at any given point. </p><p></p><p>It is so hard to live like this as their parents. I know. I understand what the "waiting" is all about, sigh. </p><p></p><p>Caring thoughts, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 505137, member: 3305"] Oh TL, I am SO sorry to hear of the latest re your difficult child. I understand about being mad instead of sad. When I am mad I am thinking about what is best for me (usually after feeling "used" by difficult child) but when I am sad I am thinking about all the many ways I can help difficult child, stop difficult child from using, etc. And the truth is... We are not responsible for our difficult child's sobriety, EVER. I know that can be so very difficult to accept. But your difficult child has been exposed to the "solution". He has had drug treatment and sober house support system, etc. He knows where the help is. Sometimes that is the best of our best ya know. Just to be able to point them in that direction...as we can't walk the walk for them, open their eyes to see or force them to look clearly at themselves. I am sorry your difficult child is at this "fork in the road" Again! We want so much for them to once and for all care about their lives enough to stick with the program. They have to get brutally honest with themselves..."To thine own self be true" and really see for themselves/be convinced for themselves. All the ways that we would like to own/take responsibility for their sobriety are in vain...as the decision for our difficult child's to use or not to use is completely out of our control and always has been no matter what comforts or discomforts are in their lives at any given point. It is so hard to live like this as their parents. I know. I understand what the "waiting" is all about, sigh. Caring thoughts, LMS [/QUOTE]
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