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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 321788" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Well, it didn't take long for the **** to hit the fan again. I was a dinner with a friend tonight, and Youngest called my cell phone. I didn't answer. I then received 4 texts in a row:</p><p></p><p>"I was gonna ask u for help I'm really sick"</p><p>"But I'm sure ur out and about"</p><p>"Sad I can't call my mom and ever just ask for some help."</p><p>And that's not bein selfish that's normal."</p><p></p><p>Now, for all she knew I could have been in the bathroom, or taking out the trash. I wasn't going to put up with it again. So, I sent a quick text back:</p><p></p><p>"when you are able to communicate without insults & assumptions I'll be more apt to help. Turning off my phone and will be free in about an hour keep me posted."</p><p></p><p>Then, I turned it off and did my best to enjoy dinner with my friend. I knew the onslaught was coming, and I was right. When I turned it back on, there were 5 more texts waiting for me:</p><p></p><p>'You are selfish I won't be there for thanksgiving nor do I think I'll be at your birthday"</p><p>"Threatening to turn off your phone bc I called your bluff and said I was hurt"</p><p>"U have some real thinking to do ab family values I showed my neighbor who's a mom what I sent and what you sent back and she said"</p><p>"It's unbelievable..and for a pastor to say u are treatin me horrible and living a selfish life is bad"</p><p>"I shoulda never startd talkin w you again I'm finished until u change.. glad ur phones off I'm sure ull be embarrassed I'm txtin u"</p><p></p><p>Sigh. I debated a long time how/what/if to reply. Talked it over with my friend a bit. Finally, I sent this:</p><p></p><p>"as long as you keep saying hateful & hurtful insults I will not engage in conversation with you. Call when you can be respectful. Love you."</p><p></p><p>Of course she texted back:</p><p></p><p>"Your loss and I think you need to take a look at the big picture"</p><p>"there's a diff by the way truth and disrespect."</p><p></p><p>I thought I sent one last text telling her to call when she was ready to be civil, and that I wouldn't keep texting.. but it's not in my "sent" so it must not have gone through. Maybe just as well. I've not heard another word from her.</p><p></p><p>I'm trying very hard not to call her. I want to say," this would have turned out so differently had you simply left a voice mail or text asking me to call you back. How do you know I wasn't in the bathroom?" Of course, it would help it I really *was* in the bathroom and out to dinner.. because it would have made my point more clearly... but, there's nothing wrong with my being out to dinner, anyway.</p><p></p><p>I am concerned about just how sick she is, but on the other hand, she certainly was able to summon up the energy to send nasty text messages, wasn't she? </p><p></p><p>This is SO HARD. Do I try to communicate again tonight? Tomorrow? Do I wait it out? Nothing seems like a good option.. except I know I can't put up with it any longer. </p><p></p><p>God help me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 321788, member: 1157"] Well, it didn't take long for the **** to hit the fan again. I was a dinner with a friend tonight, and Youngest called my cell phone. I didn't answer. I then received 4 texts in a row: "I was gonna ask u for help I'm really sick" "But I'm sure ur out and about" "Sad I can't call my mom and ever just ask for some help." And that's not bein selfish that's normal." Now, for all she knew I could have been in the bathroom, or taking out the trash. I wasn't going to put up with it again. So, I sent a quick text back: "when you are able to communicate without insults & assumptions I'll be more apt to help. Turning off my phone and will be free in about an hour keep me posted." Then, I turned it off and did my best to enjoy dinner with my friend. I knew the onslaught was coming, and I was right. When I turned it back on, there were 5 more texts waiting for me: 'You are selfish I won't be there for thanksgiving nor do I think I'll be at your birthday" "Threatening to turn off your phone bc I called your bluff and said I was hurt" "U have some real thinking to do ab family values I showed my neighbor who's a mom what I sent and what you sent back and she said" "It's unbelievable..and for a pastor to say u are treatin me horrible and living a selfish life is bad" "I shoulda never startd talkin w you again I'm finished until u change.. glad ur phones off I'm sure ull be embarrassed I'm txtin u" Sigh. I debated a long time how/what/if to reply. Talked it over with my friend a bit. Finally, I sent this: "as long as you keep saying hateful & hurtful insults I will not engage in conversation with you. Call when you can be respectful. Love you." Of course she texted back: "Your loss and I think you need to take a look at the big picture" "there's a diff by the way truth and disrespect." I thought I sent one last text telling her to call when she was ready to be civil, and that I wouldn't keep texting.. but it's not in my "sent" so it must not have gone through. Maybe just as well. I've not heard another word from her. I'm trying very hard not to call her. I want to say," this would have turned out so differently had you simply left a voice mail or text asking me to call you back. How do you know I wasn't in the bathroom?" Of course, it would help it I really *was* in the bathroom and out to dinner.. because it would have made my point more clearly... but, there's nothing wrong with my being out to dinner, anyway. I am concerned about just how sick she is, but on the other hand, she certainly was able to summon up the energy to send nasty text messages, wasn't she? This is SO HARD. Do I try to communicate again tonight? Tomorrow? Do I wait it out? Nothing seems like a good option.. except I know I can't put up with it any longer. God help me. [/QUOTE]
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