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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 629536" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Everyone said something helpful...I took a piece of each of your responses in these last two days. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, that helped me to not go. I actually waited until today (two days later) to call and say I would not participate. I said that I was not closing the door, and that if he was persistent I might join in...later. It helped me to be strong to verbalize that other option.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, MWM, there is always that to be thankful for. In jail and in the hospital we know they are safe. Who would have thought we would get to this day, right? but I am truly thankful for the small things. COM said the same about her difficult child being in jail...she was glad for the reprieve. Me too. I could walk through the park today without being on alert for his presence. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This made me laugh, and also strengthened my waivering resolve.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you, help. Your posts help me, help us all as well. Your faith in me helped keep me moving forward to make the right choice.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, dstc, I did decide to do that. I talked to Stephanie and told her that I would talk to her, but not to him, and why. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Cedar, I didn't see it this way before...it isn't that it is WRONG that is making me feel bad, it is that it is different and therefore uncomfortable (well really it is worse than uncomfortable...). Even right things can be uncomfortable. Thank you for helping me to see that. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>So effing smart!!!!! I did NOT think of this, but you are exactly right. That is what has happened the last several times. We kind of hold his hand and support him, leaning on us and looking frail (metaphorically), out of the hospital --and right back into the same dance. Never occured to me that if I withdrew they would have to look for other services....I emailed with his dad too, and told him this...he too, said he wouldn't participate, for all the reasons I did. Good for him. Good for difficult child.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This made me feel better. I hate when I am cold with him. I'm glad some one else struggles with that reaction. Child, Cedar, Recovering and I have had a lot of series about trying above all to be kind, to detach without judgement, with love...its great when I think I'm getting there...and then...I'm cold. Not what I was aiming at or thought I was attaining. Thank you for recognizing the humanity of that reaction.</p><p></p><p>Its hard to think of him feeling abandoned, scared because he thought that by complying and checking himself in we would all come embrace him again. It must be very scary. I don't know what he'll do. My guess is he will pack up and leave...not because of us, but because of him.</p><p></p><p>Pray for my boy and for me today, please.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 629536, member: 17269"] Everyone said something helpful...I took a piece of each of your responses in these last two days. Yes, that helped me to not go. I actually waited until today (two days later) to call and say I would not participate. I said that I was not closing the door, and that if he was persistent I might join in...later. It helped me to be strong to verbalize that other option. Yes, MWM, there is always that to be thankful for. In jail and in the hospital we know they are safe. Who would have thought we would get to this day, right? but I am truly thankful for the small things. COM said the same about her difficult child being in jail...she was glad for the reprieve. Me too. I could walk through the park today without being on alert for his presence. This made me laugh, and also strengthened my waivering resolve. Thank you, help. Your posts help me, help us all as well. Your faith in me helped keep me moving forward to make the right choice. Yes, dstc, I did decide to do that. I talked to Stephanie and told her that I would talk to her, but not to him, and why. Cedar, I didn't see it this way before...it isn't that it is WRONG that is making me feel bad, it is that it is different and therefore uncomfortable (well really it is worse than uncomfortable...). Even right things can be uncomfortable. Thank you for helping me to see that. So effing smart!!!!! I did NOT think of this, but you are exactly right. That is what has happened the last several times. We kind of hold his hand and support him, leaning on us and looking frail (metaphorically), out of the hospital --and right back into the same dance. Never occured to me that if I withdrew they would have to look for other services....I emailed with his dad too, and told him this...he too, said he wouldn't participate, for all the reasons I did. Good for him. Good for difficult child. This made me feel better. I hate when I am cold with him. I'm glad some one else struggles with that reaction. Child, Cedar, Recovering and I have had a lot of series about trying above all to be kind, to detach without judgement, with love...its great when I think I'm getting there...and then...I'm cold. Not what I was aiming at or thought I was attaining. Thank you for recognizing the humanity of that reaction. Its hard to think of him feeling abandoned, scared because he thought that by complying and checking himself in we would all come embrace him again. It must be very scary. I don't know what he'll do. My guess is he will pack up and leave...not because of us, but because of him. Pray for my boy and for me today, please. Echo [/QUOTE]
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