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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 57458" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>I'm sorry this is happening, hearthope.</p><p></p><p>I WOULD call the addicted uncle. Ask him to talk to your son about potential, and about the chances this uncle has thrown away. If the uncle has been in this lifestyle for awhile, he will have had several missed opportunities to think about, whether he admits it to his extended family or not.</p><p></p><p>You have nothing to lose by contacting that uncle. </p><p></p><p>Waiting for our children to come back is so hard.</p><p></p><p>Prepare for your son to come home, for how you will respond to him in a healthy way. We were always so shocked at the condition our son was in when he finally fell far enough to come home again that it was like we were frozen in place. If I could have known enough then to tell him that as surely as he chose to take his life this far down, he could choose, and had the power, to take it just as far in a positive direction, that is what I would have said. If I had known better then, I would have told our son (as we finally did learn to tell him) that we would never help him destroy himself. And that as long as he was using, as long as he refused treatment or at least therapy, we found it too painful to see him. </p><p></p><p>And that is the truth.</p><p></p><p>Once we make it through all the conflicted emotional baggage, that is the truth of it.</p><p></p><p>Waiting is hard, but educate and make yourself and your family strong enough, in this time, to help your son when he does finally come home.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p><p></p><p>PS I have been having computer problems. I have been reading along, but have been unable to post. But I found an old password? And was able to register under my first registration.</p><p>HA! I am happy about that! :smile:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 57458, member: 1721"] I'm sorry this is happening, hearthope. I WOULD call the addicted uncle. Ask him to talk to your son about potential, and about the chances this uncle has thrown away. If the uncle has been in this lifestyle for awhile, he will have had several missed opportunities to think about, whether he admits it to his extended family or not. You have nothing to lose by contacting that uncle. Waiting for our children to come back is so hard. Prepare for your son to come home, for how you will respond to him in a healthy way. We were always so shocked at the condition our son was in when he finally fell far enough to come home again that it was like we were frozen in place. If I could have known enough then to tell him that as surely as he chose to take his life this far down, he could choose, and had the power, to take it just as far in a positive direction, that is what I would have said. If I had known better then, I would have told our son (as we finally did learn to tell him) that we would never help him destroy himself. And that as long as he was using, as long as he refused treatment or at least therapy, we found it too painful to see him. And that is the truth. Once we make it through all the conflicted emotional baggage, that is the truth of it. Waiting is hard, but educate and make yourself and your family strong enough, in this time, to help your son when he does finally come home. Barbara PS I have been having computer problems. I have been reading along, but have been unable to post. But I found an old password? And was able to register under my first registration. HA! I am happy about that! [img]:smile:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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