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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 532022" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Maybe I can rephrase again? I don't think its so much about "kids needing to fit in" or "adults needing to fit in"... but... </p><p>In my experience? the "system" expects everybody else to fit in - parent, child, teacher, whoever. </p><p>And if you're wired a bit differently? The "system" doesn't really allow for that.</p><p>(if you're wired extremely differently, sometimes that's more acceptable... maybe because it is more obvious)</p><p>Which is why both the kid, and the parents, get hammered on a regular basis, trying to make us square pegs fit into their round peg-holes. somehow.</p><p></p><p>We're fortunate, here in Canada... in that officially, tolerance is taught, expected, and supported. (we still have bigots around, no question!) But because it is an official stance, we have a small wedge to use when dealing with the "system". In our case, once we had everybody's back to the wall (including ours), we were able to drive that wedge and come up with an education plan that they don't normally put on the table (but will tolerate)... because of "differences".</p><p></p><p>But no system can handle all cases well. I'm in IT - high-tech critical apps stuff. And we can't design systems that handle every single case, because we can't even conceive of every single case. We THINK we can... but sooner or later, we get a case we haven't handled. </p><p></p><p>In a country like France... there are far more "systems" and far less "tolerance"... which adds to the challenge.</p><p></p><p>But there is no perfect world. Anywhere. I look at the US stories on this board, and all the fights with insurance companies... and I'm glad I don't have that to deal with. But US members, I'm sure, wouldn't want to give up their right to go where they want and pay for what they can afford... we can't do that, and yes, there's been a time or two when it would have been nice!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 532022, member: 11791"] Maybe I can rephrase again? I don't think its so much about "kids needing to fit in" or "adults needing to fit in"... but... In my experience? the "system" expects everybody else to fit in - parent, child, teacher, whoever. And if you're wired a bit differently? The "system" doesn't really allow for that. (if you're wired extremely differently, sometimes that's more acceptable... maybe because it is more obvious) Which is why both the kid, and the parents, get hammered on a regular basis, trying to make us square pegs fit into their round peg-holes. somehow. We're fortunate, here in Canada... in that officially, tolerance is taught, expected, and supported. (we still have bigots around, no question!) But because it is an official stance, we have a small wedge to use when dealing with the "system". In our case, once we had everybody's back to the wall (including ours), we were able to drive that wedge and come up with an education plan that they don't normally put on the table (but will tolerate)... because of "differences". But no system can handle all cases well. I'm in IT - high-tech critical apps stuff. And we can't design systems that handle every single case, because we can't even conceive of every single case. We THINK we can... but sooner or later, we get a case we haven't handled. In a country like France... there are far more "systems" and far less "tolerance"... which adds to the challenge. But there is no perfect world. Anywhere. I look at the US stories on this board, and all the fights with insurance companies... and I'm glad I don't have that to deal with. But US members, I'm sure, wouldn't want to give up their right to go where they want and pay for what they can afford... we can't do that, and yes, there's been a time or two when it would have been nice! [/QUOTE]
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