My grandmother used to say, "where there is a will there is a way." However difficult it is to overcome stigma and compete, some do.
Many people overcome burdens or deficits and make a life they are proud of. Whether illness or disability or a deprived early or family life.
Some people no matter what advantage or disadvantage they may have, see their lives and the world as a glass half full. They seem to not have it in them to push through, to fight. For them, a bad break, a bad mood, a hard time will always be a reason to fold and to do whatever the thing is that will assuage their sense of themselves as unable, defeated, or take away their bad feelings. Like drugs. Or isolating.
It is this attitude that we struggle with in our difficult children, the thing that seems to be at the basis what unifies them. Their willingness to take the easy way, to escape, to cop-out.
I believe that this can be overcome. It must be. This attitude. Whether a symptom of depression or laziness or poor self-esteem, this attitude that other's have it easier or anger that they do not, is what it comes back to. And the self-indulgence that follows it.
Whether there is one job or a thousand, it always comes back to what each of us does when we feel thwarted or defeated. Do we take the high or low road?
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