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The Saga Continues: wow....just wow. :(
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 644559" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Oh Lil, Jabber, my heart just breaks for the two of you. It is heartbreaking when our children disappoint us. Nothing, absolutely nothing about him and his situation has to be decided right away. </p><p>Whatever is going on with him has been going on with him for at least the past three years and there are more days ahead of you to wrap your head around your feelings, any rage, yes, you can be enraged by your child and their behaviors and still love them very much. </p><p>No matter what the situation is with him, you aren't going to stop loving him, nor he you. You are on the right path, in my opinion, in making him live up to being a man - and yes even that is hard on us as parents as they disappoint us. You have every right to both be angry and fearful about what is going on with him. Lil, I am so proud of you for saying detach, detach detach. Yes, that is the right place to be. Detachment doesn't mean we don't love the person anymore, it means we stop letting what they are or are not doing effect us, our lives. We still get to do things with them, but it becomes more on our terms. It also becomes a situation where you reclaim your any self-respect you may have unwittingly given away to your son and show him the bright shiny new you, who still loves him but is no longer be controlled by him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 644559, member: 18366"] Oh Lil, Jabber, my heart just breaks for the two of you. It is heartbreaking when our children disappoint us. Nothing, absolutely nothing about him and his situation has to be decided right away. Whatever is going on with him has been going on with him for at least the past three years and there are more days ahead of you to wrap your head around your feelings, any rage, yes, you can be enraged by your child and their behaviors and still love them very much. No matter what the situation is with him, you aren't going to stop loving him, nor he you. You are on the right path, in my opinion, in making him live up to being a man - and yes even that is hard on us as parents as they disappoint us. You have every right to both be angry and fearful about what is going on with him. Lil, I am so proud of you for saying detach, detach detach. Yes, that is the right place to be. Detachment doesn't mean we don't love the person anymore, it means we stop letting what they are or are not doing effect us, our lives. We still get to do things with them, but it becomes more on our terms. It also becomes a situation where you reclaim your any self-respect you may have unwittingly given away to your son and show him the bright shiny new you, who still loves him but is no longer be controlled by him. [/QUOTE]
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