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The Saga Continues: wow....just wow. :(
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 644582" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Applause for you Lil, try to remember you are not "done" with loving him or being a mom for him, what you are done with is being a doormat for him. He is the one that needs to realize the difference and don't think for one minute he is just going to give up because you have started to say no. So far it is your absolute feelings of rage and rightful betrayal that have gotten you through to where you are now. Maybe as a child he was so bull headed you would feel the need to back down on minor issues because they weren't really going to affect the rest of his life. Now, he is a grown man playing childhood games and his future is at stake. You can only beat him at his own immature games by refusing to be a player anymore. Your tears are hard fought and you deserve every single one of them. Having an emotional release for all that pent up stress is actually good for you.</p><p>Become Warrior Women, ready to slay whatever is going to go down, by staying strong, and hanging tight because he means that much too you. Him, having a better life for himself, is somewhat beyond your control but I think if you can stand tall and send a message that " we don't play those games anymore" you are more likely to see change eventually. (Of course I mean by continuing to say NO ) Then even if he never changes you can still have a relationship with him but on more healthy terms of saying yes when it's ok and NO when you know he's playing you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 644582, member: 18366"] Applause for you Lil, try to remember you are not "done" with loving him or being a mom for him, what you are done with is being a doormat for him. He is the one that needs to realize the difference and don't think for one minute he is just going to give up because you have started to say no. So far it is your absolute feelings of rage and rightful betrayal that have gotten you through to where you are now. Maybe as a child he was so bull headed you would feel the need to back down on minor issues because they weren't really going to affect the rest of his life. Now, he is a grown man playing childhood games and his future is at stake. You can only beat him at his own immature games by refusing to be a player anymore. Your tears are hard fought and you deserve every single one of them. Having an emotional release for all that pent up stress is actually good for you. Become Warrior Women, ready to slay whatever is going to go down, by staying strong, and hanging tight because he means that much too you. Him, having a better life for himself, is somewhat beyond your control but I think if you can stand tall and send a message that " we don't play those games anymore" you are more likely to see change eventually. (Of course I mean by continuing to say NO ) Then even if he never changes you can still have a relationship with him but on more healthy terms of saying yes when it's ok and NO when you know he's playing you. [/QUOTE]
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