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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 477697" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>True. Very True. But there are methods that help people who are cognitively stuck. this is just a thought, since I obviously dont know the ins and outs of how he thinks or does things. So, not to say he is not really feeling this, but our thoughts affect our feelings and vice versa. He clearly has some perseveration going on here... psychiatrist/therapist can help to teach methods that work to change thoughts. The difference between I am not loved and I dont feel loved at this time might be too subtle for him. Working through underlying feelings and connecting it to what is going on may work wonders, but there are methods that can go along with that like ... identifying (or being cued) when to STOP! now re-state to the accurate thought (even if you dont believe it right now) and then say it over. And over, and over.... Maybe this is what therapist is already doing with the focusing on the future idea (I have seen and read things just recently about "future" therapy where people with depression are using a cognitive approach and it specifically focuses on changing future thoughts and dreams... having good success and again links feelings to thoughts). </p><p>of course my perception on this is from living with a child who gets so stuck and perseverates on old beliefs so much of the time. While we acknowledge his feelings under certain conditions (like just in a therapeutic conversation) we work on diversion, changing words, etc. in the perseverative moments. It could be totally off base for your situation, so please know I am just sharing....just in case.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 477697, member: 12886"] True. Very True. But there are methods that help people who are cognitively stuck. this is just a thought, since I obviously dont know the ins and outs of how he thinks or does things. So, not to say he is not really feeling this, but our thoughts affect our feelings and vice versa. He clearly has some perseveration going on here... psychiatrist/therapist can help to teach methods that work to change thoughts. The difference between I am not loved and I dont feel loved at this time might be too subtle for him. Working through underlying feelings and connecting it to what is going on may work wonders, but there are methods that can go along with that like ... identifying (or being cued) when to STOP! now re-state to the accurate thought (even if you dont believe it right now) and then say it over. And over, and over.... Maybe this is what therapist is already doing with the focusing on the future idea (I have seen and read things just recently about "future" therapy where people with depression are using a cognitive approach and it specifically focuses on changing future thoughts and dreams... having good success and again links feelings to thoughts). of course my perception on this is from living with a child who gets so stuck and perseverates on old beliefs so much of the time. While we acknowledge his feelings under certain conditions (like just in a therapeutic conversation) we work on diversion, changing words, etc. in the perseverative moments. It could be totally off base for your situation, so please know I am just sharing....just in case. [/QUOTE]
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