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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 645617" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I could not agree more with IC if I were her...lol. That's EXACTLY what I was thinking. He doesn't hang out with "normal" people because he doesn't know how to act normal so he hangs with the fringes. Fringe folks are the least judgmental of anyone. They excuse lack of social graces, inability to read body language, and just different type of talking, thinking and doing. It's too hard to try to understand. It's like trying to understand a foreign language.</p><p></p><p>My son Sonic, on the spectrum, has a slew of friends and none are so-called losers in the eyes of the law and they all work, etc. but they are all people who are overcoming challenges and know it and are ok with it and each other. Sonic will probably never relate well to people at parties who are "typical" but it doesn't bother him...or me. I'm rather socially challenged myself and a room full of people "playing the game" not only doesn't appeal to me...like Sonic, I don't understand the game and don't like games. I am just a hair ahead of Sonic as I have neurological differences and a SEVERE non-verbal learning disability, which is a lot like Aspergers. It is hard to live in a confusing world and succeed in something you don't really understand. You know what others do, but you don't know how to get there...the "typical" way. Or at all. Everyone on the spectrum is different.</p><p></p><p>You can tell your son he may be differently wired neurologically. Don't make it out like he's "crazy." I think THAT is their biggest fear. A neurological difference is in no way a psychological problem. Apples and oranges. If he is on the spectrum, you WOULD need to try to protect him a little bit more than if he weren't. ASDers are notoriously gullible and easy to talk into doing things they may not even want to do, but they are very vulnerable, like much younger children. They also tend to bore easily, not listen to us if we talk too long, have obsessive interests (especially technology) and tend to break into our sentences and start talking about things we weren't even addressing. Or they just don't "get" what we mean. This isn't defiance in their cases. Your son sounds innocent and rather sweet, not like a normally rebellious difficult child who tells you how much he hates you...you may not have seen it earlier, if it is even there, because you had the monetary means to keep him afloat for so long. But now he is on his own and it isn't working out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 645617, member: 1550"] I could not agree more with IC if I were her...lol. That's EXACTLY what I was thinking. He doesn't hang out with "normal" people because he doesn't know how to act normal so he hangs with the fringes. Fringe folks are the least judgmental of anyone. They excuse lack of social graces, inability to read body language, and just different type of talking, thinking and doing. It's too hard to try to understand. It's like trying to understand a foreign language. My son Sonic, on the spectrum, has a slew of friends and none are so-called losers in the eyes of the law and they all work, etc. but they are all people who are overcoming challenges and know it and are ok with it and each other. Sonic will probably never relate well to people at parties who are "typical" but it doesn't bother him...or me. I'm rather socially challenged myself and a room full of people "playing the game" not only doesn't appeal to me...like Sonic, I don't understand the game and don't like games. I am just a hair ahead of Sonic as I have neurological differences and a SEVERE non-verbal learning disability, which is a lot like Aspergers. It is hard to live in a confusing world and succeed in something you don't really understand. You know what others do, but you don't know how to get there...the "typical" way. Or at all. Everyone on the spectrum is different. You can tell your son he may be differently wired neurologically. Don't make it out like he's "crazy." I think THAT is their biggest fear. A neurological difference is in no way a psychological problem. Apples and oranges. If he is on the spectrum, you WOULD need to try to protect him a little bit more than if he weren't. ASDers are notoriously gullible and easy to talk into doing things they may not even want to do, but they are very vulnerable, like much younger children. They also tend to bore easily, not listen to us if we talk too long, have obsessive interests (especially technology) and tend to break into our sentences and start talking about things we weren't even addressing. Or they just don't "get" what we mean. This isn't defiance in their cases. Your son sounds innocent and rather sweet, not like a normally rebellious difficult child who tells you how much he hates you...you may not have seen it earlier, if it is even there, because you had the monetary means to keep him afloat for so long. But now he is on his own and it isn't working out. [/QUOTE]
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