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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 101175" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I so understand the feeling of guilt because of thinking I should be feeling guilty. It's a strange, vicious circle. You know you've done your best but your best isn't quite good enough. The behavior is a choice of your child but where did your child get the idea that this type of behavior was acceptable. However, you think maybe just maybe you could have done more and then realize you did everything you could. So, you wonder what is wrong with you that you don't feel guilty, like you failed, like something .... </p><p></p><p>I'm surprised the staff hasn't started pressing charges against him. At my daughter's Residential Treatment Center (RTC), you hit once and it was okay. The second time was a warning that the next time the police would be called and they would be called.</p><p></p><p>There is a lot of delusion in kids in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Other kids fill their heads with all kinds of junk. It is much easier to listen to the ones who aren't working the program than those that are. Working the program is hard work! They think they can manipulate everyone and then walk away as if nothing happened. For some, they see this doesn't work quickly. For others, it takes awhile. Sadly, some never quite get it and fake their way through. My daughter went almost 12 months before she showed her true colors. It took another 2 months before she actually did any true work. In the last 4 months, she made remarkable strides. Not enough to be totally different when she got home, but enough to help her cope with the outside world. Most importantly, I'm seeing her use the tools she learned there today. I hope your son gets it one day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 101175, member: 3626"] I so understand the feeling of guilt because of thinking I should be feeling guilty. It's a strange, vicious circle. You know you've done your best but your best isn't quite good enough. The behavior is a choice of your child but where did your child get the idea that this type of behavior was acceptable. However, you think maybe just maybe you could have done more and then realize you did everything you could. So, you wonder what is wrong with you that you don't feel guilty, like you failed, like something .... I'm surprised the staff hasn't started pressing charges against him. At my daughter's Residential Treatment Center (RTC), you hit once and it was okay. The second time was a warning that the next time the police would be called and they would be called. There is a lot of delusion in kids in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Other kids fill their heads with all kinds of junk. It is much easier to listen to the ones who aren't working the program than those that are. Working the program is hard work! They think they can manipulate everyone and then walk away as if nothing happened. For some, they see this doesn't work quickly. For others, it takes awhile. Sadly, some never quite get it and fake their way through. My daughter went almost 12 months before she showed her true colors. It took another 2 months before she actually did any true work. In the last 4 months, she made remarkable strides. Not enough to be totally different when she got home, but enough to help her cope with the outside world. Most importantly, I'm seeing her use the tools she learned there today. I hope your son gets it one day. [/QUOTE]
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