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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 101373" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Oh Beth - I am just so laughing here. Our difficult children really do a number on us... feeling guilty for *not* feeling guilty. :rofl: I have so been there done that!!</p><p></p><p>I don't know where the violence comes from or why they think it's ok. thank you certainly never saw anything even remotely violent at home - heck, I never even let him watch Power Rangers (a fact we don't discuss because I'm quite sure *that* deprivation has something to do with some ridiculous behavior of his, LOL). What really concerns me is that after 7.5 years of Residential Treatment Center (RTC), thank you is *still* capable of becoming very physically threatening, and he's not a little kid anymore. But it is *never* his fault - he thinks he's justified because (insert excuse of the day). It scares me because it's incredibly unsafe behavior - either he's going to get himself seriously hurt for threatening the wrong person or his little fanny is going to be locked up. He refuses to see that he simply cannot behave that way, ever.</p><p></p><p>I've really been struggling the last couple of months with just being bone weary of it all. I'm feeling really resentful and angry for the first time in a very long time. We had yet another (probably pointless) discussion over the holiday about how he'd better get his act together and pretty darn soon - we've got about 15 months until he's 18 and then... well, he's ill prepared to do much of anything and I quite frankly just don't care anymore. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, on the way up back up to TLP I asked husband to reinforce both the conversation and also how very *very* much we love thank you. I guess the subject of AWOLs came up and amazingly thank you is still blaming us for him going AWOL. :hammer:</p><p></p><p>I think after so many years of dealing with this completely illogical/irrational/severely impaired mindset, with no true change in it despite interventions and treatment out the ears, I'm just tired of beating my head against the same old wall. He's going to have to learn (or not) by experience and somehow I am going to have to keep myself from getting overly worked up about it, which may take nothing short of general anesthetic.</p><p></p><p>Sorry - now I'm rambling. :wink: You are not alone, though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 101373, member: 8"] Oh Beth - I am just so laughing here. Our difficult children really do a number on us... feeling guilty for *not* feeling guilty. [img]:rofl:[/img] I have so been there done that!! I don't know where the violence comes from or why they think it's ok. thank you certainly never saw anything even remotely violent at home - heck, I never even let him watch Power Rangers (a fact we don't discuss because I'm quite sure *that* deprivation has something to do with some ridiculous behavior of his, LOL). What really concerns me is that after 7.5 years of Residential Treatment Center (RTC), thank you is *still* capable of becoming very physically threatening, and he's not a little kid anymore. But it is *never* his fault - he thinks he's justified because (insert excuse of the day). It scares me because it's incredibly unsafe behavior - either he's going to get himself seriously hurt for threatening the wrong person or his little fanny is going to be locked up. He refuses to see that he simply cannot behave that way, ever. I've really been struggling the last couple of months with just being bone weary of it all. I'm feeling really resentful and angry for the first time in a very long time. We had yet another (probably pointless) discussion over the holiday about how he'd better get his act together and pretty darn soon - we've got about 15 months until he's 18 and then... well, he's ill prepared to do much of anything and I quite frankly just don't care anymore. Anyway, on the way up back up to TLP I asked husband to reinforce both the conversation and also how very *very* much we love thank you. I guess the subject of AWOLs came up and amazingly thank you is still blaming us for him going AWOL. [img]:hammer:[/img] I think after so many years of dealing with this completely illogical/irrational/severely impaired mindset, with no true change in it despite interventions and treatment out the ears, I'm just tired of beating my head against the same old wall. He's going to have to learn (or not) by experience and somehow I am going to have to keep myself from getting overly worked up about it, which may take nothing short of general anesthetic. Sorry - now I'm rambling. [img]:wink:[/img] You are not alone, though. [/QUOTE]
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