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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 753324" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>For better or worse I am very direct with my son, and most, but not all people. I would say to my own son directly:<em> For reasons you are aware of, while I support your going to a therapist, and choosing your own therapist, I have serious concerns about this therapist, for the family and for you. Therefore, I choose to not be involved in payment, transportation, etc. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>I don't believe you owe your daughter explanations about your decisions or your conduct. Rather, you are the parent here. And it is your home. And your support. Not vis versa.</p><p></p><p>I agree. Who cares if you are the bad guy? If she responds to your strength, to boundaries, to limits by denunciations, what does it have to do with you? And if she chooses to create conflict, that is on her. She not you will have to deal with the consequences. Ultimately.</p><p></p><p>I think the idea of a full time job makes sense, for me too. I am preparing to return to work. Which was always the center of my life. I want to return to my center. But I would not hesitate to tell your daughter your truth. I think she may be empowered (negatively) by your holding back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 753324, member: 18958"] For better or worse I am very direct with my son, and most, but not all people. I would say to my own son directly:[I] For reasons you are aware of, while I support your going to a therapist, and choosing your own therapist, I have serious concerns about this therapist, for the family and for you. Therefore, I choose to not be involved in payment, transportation, etc. [/I] I don't believe you owe your daughter explanations about your decisions or your conduct. Rather, you are the parent here. And it is your home. And your support. Not vis versa. I agree. Who cares if you are the bad guy? If she responds to your strength, to boundaries, to limits by denunciations, what does it have to do with you? And if she chooses to create conflict, that is on her. She not you will have to deal with the consequences. Ultimately. I think the idea of a full time job makes sense, for me too. I am preparing to return to work. Which was always the center of my life. I want to return to my center. But I would not hesitate to tell your daughter your truth. I think she may be empowered (negatively) by your holding back. [/QUOTE]
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