Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Therapist for DC2
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 753366" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>It can (and should) be hard to find the right match as a therapist. A therapist has to be judicious about their interpretations. It's hard to know all the time how much a patient can tolerate of directness. It's normal to defend oneself when the truth hurts. Which is what your daughter is doing. I was sensitive too. Maybe with this therapist there was more truth than your daughter could handle.</p><p></p><p>Because I can't envision the kind of community where you live, I don't know the resources there. But there are all kinds of psychotherapies now, and the term has been greatly expanded to include approaches from dance and movement, art, music, drama, and somatic therapies. Even equine assisted therapy. Maybe something less verbal (but with support) would be more accessible for your daughter right now. And there is Family Systems Therapy.</p><p></p><p>So much of what you write of distress seems to come from how it is played out in the family.</p><p></p><p>That's one reason I harp on the importance of our having lives apart from the hothouse-intense dramas at home of which we are a part. And I need to follow my own advice.</p><p></p><p>This therapist sounds toxic, unethical and all around bad news. I respect your stand.I wish you a safe and comfortable flight home too.</p><p>When she pushes you away she is trying to manage her own intense and ambivalent feelings for you. It has nothing to do with you or her love for you. It has everything to do with her.</p><p></p><p>Your son seems like he will soon be on his own. Which is a good thing. As he moves out and away relationships will come more into harmony, I believe.</p><p></p><p>I posted before about my friend whose daughter went to residential treatment for an eating disorder. Would there be that possibility for daughter to go to residential treatment for either her eating disorder or self-harming?</p><p></p><p>There was a famous movie many years ago called Network, I think. It was about news reporters. I can't remember the story. But it was famous for one line, which concluded,<em> And I'm Not Going To Take It Anymore, </em>said by the broadcast news anchor on live TV. This is very painful. I ache for you. But the person who needs to stand up for you, to protect you, is you. Get mad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 753366, member: 18958"] It can (and should) be hard to find the right match as a therapist. A therapist has to be judicious about their interpretations. It's hard to know all the time how much a patient can tolerate of directness. It's normal to defend oneself when the truth hurts. Which is what your daughter is doing. I was sensitive too. Maybe with this therapist there was more truth than your daughter could handle. Because I can't envision the kind of community where you live, I don't know the resources there. But there are all kinds of psychotherapies now, and the term has been greatly expanded to include approaches from dance and movement, art, music, drama, and somatic therapies. Even equine assisted therapy. Maybe something less verbal (but with support) would be more accessible for your daughter right now. And there is Family Systems Therapy. So much of what you write of distress seems to come from how it is played out in the family. That's one reason I harp on the importance of our having lives apart from the hothouse-intense dramas at home of which we are a part. And I need to follow my own advice. This therapist sounds toxic, unethical and all around bad news. I respect your stand.I wish you a safe and comfortable flight home too. When she pushes you away she is trying to manage her own intense and ambivalent feelings for you. It has nothing to do with you or her love for you. It has everything to do with her. Your son seems like he will soon be on his own. Which is a good thing. As he moves out and away relationships will come more into harmony, I believe. I posted before about my friend whose daughter went to residential treatment for an eating disorder. Would there be that possibility for daughter to go to residential treatment for either her eating disorder or self-harming? There was a famous movie many years ago called Network, I think. It was about news reporters. I can't remember the story. But it was famous for one line, which concluded,[I] And I'm Not Going To Take It Anymore, [/I]said by the broadcast news anchor on live TV. This is very painful. I ache for you. But the person who needs to stand up for you, to protect you, is you. Get mad. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Therapist for DC2
Top