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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 753367" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I don't think this is wrong. I am the same way. But loving and forgiving is NOT tolerating bad behavior directed towards me or impacting me, without respite. </p><p></p><p>I am involved in the same kind of dance with my son. My son is not a mean person but being exposed to his behaviors and choices chips away at one. Wears me down. Wears M down. And then we begin to fight each other. And then I feel I have to choose one or the other. And I don't feel I can. I can't let my son go. He cannot do this alone. And yet he is not committed or is unable to implement the changes that would help him, and us. And I depend upon M greatly at this point. While in a relationship with him I took on obligations that I did not have the capability to manage myself. And I depend upon M emotionally. Too much. </p><p></p><p>So the three of us are always in some sort of disequilibrium. Pushing away. Pulling back. Like you and your daughter. Boundaries are part of love too. Aren't they?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 753367, member: 18958"] I don't think this is wrong. I am the same way. But loving and forgiving is NOT tolerating bad behavior directed towards me or impacting me, without respite. I am involved in the same kind of dance with my son. My son is not a mean person but being exposed to his behaviors and choices chips away at one. Wears me down. Wears M down. And then we begin to fight each other. And then I feel I have to choose one or the other. And I don't feel I can. I can't let my son go. He cannot do this alone. And yet he is not committed or is unable to implement the changes that would help him, and us. And I depend upon M greatly at this point. While in a relationship with him I took on obligations that I did not have the capability to manage myself. And I depend upon M emotionally. Too much. So the three of us are always in some sort of disequilibrium. Pushing away. Pulling back. Like you and your daughter. Boundaries are part of love too. Aren't they? [/QUOTE]
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