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There is a WRONG way to handle a difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 352859" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I don't question the claim that he's a difficult child at all. But I do know someone who adopted a child from an orphanage in China, and maybe I just assumed prematurely that the process would be similar. This lady and her husband had to travel to China twice- first to do an application and "pick" a potential child to adopt. Then they had to go to some educational type counseling or something to discuss all those things- like unrealistic expectations and the other things that might stem from an international adoption from an orphanage. There were agency reps in China and here that this couple had to basicly answer to. I find it hard to believe that even though in Russia, not China, this woman wasn't given any kind of clue that the child might not be a easy child and she and the boy might need some counseling and support. They brought her (the little girl) back, after I think the third trip, then did have to take her somewhere about a year later to finalize the adoption. If this case in the paper was anything like that, I can't see where the woman wouldn't have the means to handle this better- it's not that I'm blaming her for changing her mind about it so much. And really- she's an RN and should have had access to some type of help to handle the situation better- not the situation of raising him herself necessarily, but the situaation of "what do I do now". Couldn't she have notified some authority over there att least, that she was sending the child back? A note on the kid just doesn't cut it to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 352859, member: 3699"] I don't question the claim that he's a difficult child at all. But I do know someone who adopted a child from an orphanage in China, and maybe I just assumed prematurely that the process would be similar. This lady and her husband had to travel to China twice- first to do an application and "pick" a potential child to adopt. Then they had to go to some educational type counseling or something to discuss all those things- like unrealistic expectations and the other things that might stem from an international adoption from an orphanage. There were agency reps in China and here that this couple had to basicly answer to. I find it hard to believe that even though in Russia, not China, this woman wasn't given any kind of clue that the child might not be a easy child and she and the boy might need some counseling and support. They brought her (the little girl) back, after I think the third trip, then did have to take her somewhere about a year later to finalize the adoption. If this case in the paper was anything like that, I can't see where the woman wouldn't have the means to handle this better- it's not that I'm blaming her for changing her mind about it so much. And really- she's an RN and should have had access to some type of help to handle the situation better- not the situation of raising him herself necessarily, but the situaation of "what do I do now". Couldn't she have notified some authority over there att least, that she was sending the child back? A note on the kid just doesn't cut it to me. [/QUOTE]
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