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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 120372" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>If he stays in high school, he will be eligible for continued grant funding and placement until he hits 21. His current placement is more a group home - I should probably change my sig to be clearer. It's not locked, he is free to do pretty much as he pleases, though there are (in my humble opinion) minor consequences if he goes AWOL or whatever. This is supposed to be a transitional living program and I think it is a decent one for kids who are working it. For kids who aren't, I think it's more a waystation. Once he ages out (if he sticks around that long) at 21, he will have a foot in the door for the adult mental health program run by same agency - group homes spread around the metro area, supported independent living, supported employment. One of the things I never have liked about the program is the assumption that the clients will apply for SSI as adults and have that funding - there's really not much of a push for self-sufficiency. on the other hand, I question whether pushing him would make him any more prepared - I just don't know anymore. Age old problem of dragging the horse to water but not being able to make him drink.</p><p> </p><p>But the resources and supports will be there for him, *if* he chooses to use them. I think he will need to but that grandiose thinking of he knows it all and needs no one has just been magnified by the teen years. </p><p> </p><p>There's a minimal therapeutic component at this point, which is okay with me. Heaven help me, 13 years of therapy with this kid later, it's either taken hold or not. He's not invested in therapy at all and my forehead is flat from banging it on the wall.</p><p> </p><p>Because I always have to worry about *something*, LOL, my concern is that he's going to get the brilliant idea when he hits 18 that he's an "adult" and that he's ready to go out on his own. Nothing I can do about it so I guess I need to make peace with the possibility *and* emphasize that he needs to not look at home as a sure-thing safety net.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 120372, member: 8"] If he stays in high school, he will be eligible for continued grant funding and placement until he hits 21. His current placement is more a group home - I should probably change my sig to be clearer. It's not locked, he is free to do pretty much as he pleases, though there are (in my humble opinion) minor consequences if he goes AWOL or whatever. This is supposed to be a transitional living program and I think it is a decent one for kids who are working it. For kids who aren't, I think it's more a waystation. Once he ages out (if he sticks around that long) at 21, he will have a foot in the door for the adult mental health program run by same agency - group homes spread around the metro area, supported independent living, supported employment. One of the things I never have liked about the program is the assumption that the clients will apply for SSI as adults and have that funding - there's really not much of a push for self-sufficiency. on the other hand, I question whether pushing him would make him any more prepared - I just don't know anymore. Age old problem of dragging the horse to water but not being able to make him drink. But the resources and supports will be there for him, *if* he chooses to use them. I think he will need to but that grandiose thinking of he knows it all and needs no one has just been magnified by the teen years. There's a minimal therapeutic component at this point, which is okay with me. Heaven help me, 13 years of therapy with this kid later, it's either taken hold or not. He's not invested in therapy at all and my forehead is flat from banging it on the wall. Because I always have to worry about *something*, LOL, my concern is that he's going to get the brilliant idea when he hits 18 that he's an "adult" and that he's ready to go out on his own. Nothing I can do about it so I guess I need to make peace with the possibility *and* emphasize that he needs to not look at home as a sure-thing safety net. [/QUOTE]
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