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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 459713"><p>In my case, I have to be VERY specific when giving a direction and usually have to explain to difficult child WHY I want him to do it. When difficult child does something he shouldn't or doesn't do something he should, the first words out of my mouth (in a nice, calm, inviting tone) are WHY did you do/not do that? That opens the door. If difficult child says "I don't know" then I try to offer "reasons" that would make sense to me, keeping in mind that he isn't TRYING to be difficult. Usually he has a very clear reason that makes sense to him. Without knowing the why, I don't know what to teach him in a manner that addresses his reason. Does that make sense? I agree with Insane. Drop the "rules". If they don't make sense to her, she CAN'T follow them. Personally, I would get a copy of the book for yourself. I have highlighted mine and still refer to it on occasion. My memory isn't as good as it used to be. LOL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 459713"] In my case, I have to be VERY specific when giving a direction and usually have to explain to difficult child WHY I want him to do it. When difficult child does something he shouldn't or doesn't do something he should, the first words out of my mouth (in a nice, calm, inviting tone) are WHY did you do/not do that? That opens the door. If difficult child says "I don't know" then I try to offer "reasons" that would make sense to me, keeping in mind that he isn't TRYING to be difficult. Usually he has a very clear reason that makes sense to him. Without knowing the why, I don't know what to teach him in a manner that addresses his reason. Does that make sense? I agree with Insane. Drop the "rules". If they don't make sense to her, she CAN'T follow them. Personally, I would get a copy of the book for yourself. I have highlighted mine and still refer to it on occasion. My memory isn't as good as it used to be. LOL [/QUOTE]
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