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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 293885" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I'm going to jump back in here to add another 2 cents. LOL! I think you are handling the situation very well TM- especially about Fri. where this was not planned to be an event with A there. But I'd like to suggest that we warrior moms might be too worried about the bullies' (and maybe their parents') feelings sometimes. Not that we shouldn't care about another's feelings, but I see it as natural consequences for the bullies or otherwise "not-so-nice" kids if a kid gets tired of dealing with them and doesn't want to play with them anymore. True, it's difficult even for adults to deal with certain personalities but we try to adjust and stand up for ourselves when need be. Still, if we are continuously having to make this effort with someone we are socializing with, it's pretty normal and healthy to stop socializing with them, in my humble opinion. Maybe I'm too hardened but I find it perfectly acceptable to let another parent know- nicely and subtly- that my kid doesn't want to hang out with that kid anymore. OK- maybe I fudge a little sometimes and word it more like "I don't think this friendship is a positive thing for difficult child and I need to keep him away from C for a while". If the parent asks why, I have said because difficult child gets his feelings hurt easily, or doesn't seem to enjoy it as much as he used to, his interests are changing or whatever.</p><p></p><p>TM, I feel for the issues your bff is dealing, too, but let's face it, A has to learn that a tantrum won't get her friends or keep them and her mom needs to be teaching her that. My son went thru a stage where if someone gave him his/her phone number, he would call the person 3 or 4 times a DAY! I told him not to, he would sneak, I tried to explain that it's not polite, etc., but he had to learn the hard way- by kids telling him they were sorry they gave him the number. After other kids did things like this 2-3 times, he got the point.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 293885, member: 3699"] I'm going to jump back in here to add another 2 cents. LOL! I think you are handling the situation very well TM- especially about Fri. where this was not planned to be an event with A there. But I'd like to suggest that we warrior moms might be too worried about the bullies' (and maybe their parents') feelings sometimes. Not that we shouldn't care about another's feelings, but I see it as natural consequences for the bullies or otherwise "not-so-nice" kids if a kid gets tired of dealing with them and doesn't want to play with them anymore. True, it's difficult even for adults to deal with certain personalities but we try to adjust and stand up for ourselves when need be. Still, if we are continuously having to make this effort with someone we are socializing with, it's pretty normal and healthy to stop socializing with them, in my humble opinion. Maybe I'm too hardened but I find it perfectly acceptable to let another parent know- nicely and subtly- that my kid doesn't want to hang out with that kid anymore. OK- maybe I fudge a little sometimes and word it more like "I don't think this friendship is a positive thing for difficult child and I need to keep him away from C for a while". If the parent asks why, I have said because difficult child gets his feelings hurt easily, or doesn't seem to enjoy it as much as he used to, his interests are changing or whatever. TM, I feel for the issues your bff is dealing, too, but let's face it, A has to learn that a tantrum won't get her friends or keep them and her mom needs to be teaching her that. My son went thru a stage where if someone gave him his/her phone number, he would call the person 3 or 4 times a DAY! I told him not to, he would sneak, I tried to explain that it's not polite, etc., but he had to learn the hard way- by kids telling him they were sorry they gave him the number. After other kids did things like this 2-3 times, he got the point. [/QUOTE]
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