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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 704926" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi TL.</p><p></p><p>He may not be miserable in his room-may be more comfortable than socializing with anyone. I know when our son even visits with siblings, he withdraws some. It's as if he wants to be here but it is also painful in comparison to his life ie. no spouse, job, home.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I also put it away, a good term to use. Unfortunately, I bring it back out way too often. I get the reality of my lack of control, cure and cause but it's the living day after day with the sadness.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh Copa-our situations have been similar, our reactions also. When protective services brought 7 day old Difficult Child to our home, the minute she put him in my arms I loved with all my heart. I knew I could save him. I believed love overcomes, now I have to solace myself with where he might be if we hadn't tried. Two of our other kids have adopted or are fostering, I really pray they fare better. There are many here who struggle with their biological kid/adults, love didn't fix it either. It's hard for me to grasp all this as my natural instinct in everything is to ask why...and my why has not been answered in all these years.</p><p></p><p></p><p>After such sad musings--I find humor in this...as I believe I told my son last visit "put your coat on, it's cold outside". </p><p>Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 704926, member: 20054"] Hi TL. He may not be miserable in his room-may be more comfortable than socializing with anyone. I know when our son even visits with siblings, he withdraws some. It's as if he wants to be here but it is also painful in comparison to his life ie. no spouse, job, home. I also put it away, a good term to use. Unfortunately, I bring it back out way too often. I get the reality of my lack of control, cure and cause but it's the living day after day with the sadness. Oh Copa-our situations have been similar, our reactions also. When protective services brought 7 day old Difficult Child to our home, the minute she put him in my arms I loved with all my heart. I knew I could save him. I believed love overcomes, now I have to solace myself with where he might be if we hadn't tried. Two of our other kids have adopted or are fostering, I really pray they fare better. There are many here who struggle with their biological kid/adults, love didn't fix it either. It's hard for me to grasp all this as my natural instinct in everything is to ask why...and my why has not been answered in all these years. After such sad musings--I find humor in this...as I believe I told my son last visit "put your coat on, it's cold outside". Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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