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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 622297" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Kathy what you say makes total sense...I think it is sometimes so hard to find the balance between enabling and supporting. And that entitlement thing has got to go.... and in a way that is a first sign that they are getting desperate and ready I think.</p><p></p><p>I definitely do not think you should enable her and only you know where that balance is.</p><p></p><p>As you know I do get it.... we did let our difficult child live on the streets for 4 months in the middle of winter in Denver. I did not rescue him.... yes I bought him a sleeping bag but I did not bring him home, did not send him money did not do any of that. By the time he asked for the sleeping bag he was not actiing entitled and was very appreciative.</p><p></p><p>And I also agree the only thing you really can do when they get manipulative and entitled is to distance yourself. They need to get that they really are on their own, their decisions about their life is their own and anything you do for them is a total gift.</p><p></p><p>So your difficult child needs to find out what being on her own is really like.... it is not pretty or fun....and if she really is homeless that may help cure her of her entitlement....at least in the short term.</p><p></p><p>I am hoping she gets desperate for help soon and then does what she needs to do.</p><p></p><p>TL</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 622297, member: 15801"] Kathy what you say makes total sense...I think it is sometimes so hard to find the balance between enabling and supporting. And that entitlement thing has got to go.... and in a way that is a first sign that they are getting desperate and ready I think. I definitely do not think you should enable her and only you know where that balance is. As you know I do get it.... we did let our difficult child live on the streets for 4 months in the middle of winter in Denver. I did not rescue him.... yes I bought him a sleeping bag but I did not bring him home, did not send him money did not do any of that. By the time he asked for the sleeping bag he was not actiing entitled and was very appreciative. And I also agree the only thing you really can do when they get manipulative and entitled is to distance yourself. They need to get that they really are on their own, their decisions about their life is their own and anything you do for them is a total gift. So your difficult child needs to find out what being on her own is really like.... it is not pretty or fun....and if she really is homeless that may help cure her of her entitlement....at least in the short term. I am hoping she gets desperate for help soon and then does what she needs to do. TL Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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