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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 526370" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I do NOT think it is a great idea to meet him before you see the counselor. Not at ALL. You have to be prepared for this an you need to know what some of the pitfalls could be. It is entirely possible that he could accuse you or husband or even his sister of following him to a restroom or isolated area and harming him again away from cameras. All he would need to do is to mess up his hair/clothes and t could look much like one of you hurt him. </p><p></p><p>At this point you MUST do everything to protect yourself. He has the 'recuers' to help him. You need the counselor and a good family court lawyer. NEVER meet someone accusing you of abuse with-o a witness or in a place that is not public. the witness needs to b someone you know so that if he lies about then you have proof that you were never alone with him to hurt him.</p><p></p><p>Your son is 16 and wants freedom and to be supported by the state. You daughter is NOT wanting to be out of your home. If difficult child convinces a court that you have abused hm, then the court can take your daughter away also - and they probably will or will put very intrusive counselors and other personnel in your lives and a LOT of demands on you.</p><p></p><p>A nice dinner out is just the message he needs right now. It is more like a reward for his behavior - gee, you moved out and are telling everyone we beat you, were verbally and emotionally and mentally abusive and now lets buy you a nice dinner! Good boy!! </p><p></p><p>I know that isn't what you mean or intend to tell him, but meeting for a nice dinner just isn't the thing right now. He is jeopardizing your daughter's future with his false allegations. IF for no other reason than that, PLEASE do not meet him anywhere but the counselor, atty, or a dr office/hospital setting if there is an emergency. don't explain why you won't meet him, jsut let it be until you speak with the counselor. I know you miss him greatly, but you need guidance on how to handle this and someone to watch the situation and be able to prove that you didn't do anything to him during the meetings. At least for a while.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 526370, member: 1233"] I do NOT think it is a great idea to meet him before you see the counselor. Not at ALL. You have to be prepared for this an you need to know what some of the pitfalls could be. It is entirely possible that he could accuse you or husband or even his sister of following him to a restroom or isolated area and harming him again away from cameras. All he would need to do is to mess up his hair/clothes and t could look much like one of you hurt him. At this point you MUST do everything to protect yourself. He has the 'recuers' to help him. You need the counselor and a good family court lawyer. NEVER meet someone accusing you of abuse with-o a witness or in a place that is not public. the witness needs to b someone you know so that if he lies about then you have proof that you were never alone with him to hurt him. Your son is 16 and wants freedom and to be supported by the state. You daughter is NOT wanting to be out of your home. If difficult child convinces a court that you have abused hm, then the court can take your daughter away also - and they probably will or will put very intrusive counselors and other personnel in your lives and a LOT of demands on you. A nice dinner out is just the message he needs right now. It is more like a reward for his behavior - gee, you moved out and are telling everyone we beat you, were verbally and emotionally and mentally abusive and now lets buy you a nice dinner! Good boy!! I know that isn't what you mean or intend to tell him, but meeting for a nice dinner just isn't the thing right now. He is jeopardizing your daughter's future with his false allegations. IF for no other reason than that, PLEASE do not meet him anywhere but the counselor, atty, or a dr office/hospital setting if there is an emergency. don't explain why you won't meet him, jsut let it be until you speak with the counselor. I know you miss him greatly, but you need guidance on how to handle this and someone to watch the situation and be able to prove that you didn't do anything to him during the meetings. At least for a while. [/QUOTE]
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