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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 201038" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>I can't believe I'm back so soon!!! difficult child 2 is actually doing his homework without banging, swearing, etc.,,, A MIRACLE!!! One more thing I just thought of - </p><p></p><p>When you have an unstable difficult child who isn't in a rage but is in desperate need of a tweak in his/her medications, here is a bit of advice that has helped me survive the rough times until the new dosage, medication, etc., has had a chance to kick in.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 is both bipolar and an Aspie. When he is having a difficult time staying "glued together", I try to keep my explanations limited to a five or six word sentence. A therapist difficult child 1 once had told me that when difficult child 1 is unstable, he'll only listen to at most, five or six words from me. So, it is best to keep any necessary explanations short and sweet.</p><p></p><p>This works extremely well when difficult child 1 is looking to get a "rise" out of me. difficult child 1 actually enjoys creating chaos. When I respond to him in a neutral tone using minimal words, it has the greatest impact. Once difficult child 1 realizes he can't engage me in an argument and that I'm not going to keep repeating my explanations to him, he usually backs off. He has actually told me many times that "I'm no fun." He doesn't realize what a great compliment this is, lol!!! This method has helped me remain sane many times. </p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, difficult child 1 loves creating chaos even when he is stable on his medications. So, I have lots of opportunities to practice this skill. I know this method won't work for all of our difficult children, but I hope it helps some of you. WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 201038, member: 3388"] I can't believe I'm back so soon!!! difficult child 2 is actually doing his homework without banging, swearing, etc.,,, A MIRACLE!!! One more thing I just thought of - When you have an unstable difficult child who isn't in a rage but is in desperate need of a tweak in his/her medications, here is a bit of advice that has helped me survive the rough times until the new dosage, medication, etc., has had a chance to kick in. difficult child 1 is both bipolar and an Aspie. When he is having a difficult time staying "glued together", I try to keep my explanations limited to a five or six word sentence. A therapist difficult child 1 once had told me that when difficult child 1 is unstable, he'll only listen to at most, five or six words from me. So, it is best to keep any necessary explanations short and sweet. This works extremely well when difficult child 1 is looking to get a "rise" out of me. difficult child 1 actually enjoys creating chaos. When I respond to him in a neutral tone using minimal words, it has the greatest impact. Once difficult child 1 realizes he can't engage me in an argument and that I'm not going to keep repeating my explanations to him, he usually backs off. He has actually told me many times that "I'm no fun." He doesn't realize what a great compliment this is, lol!!! This method has helped me remain sane many times. Unfortunately, difficult child 1 loves creating chaos even when he is stable on his medications. So, I have lots of opportunities to practice this skill. I know this method won't work for all of our difficult children, but I hope it helps some of you. WFEN [/QUOTE]
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