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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 637325" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>HM and dtsc, they are ALL different. For example, my son is very gifted intellectually, although he did not finish college, and is creative and shy. Somebody's else's difficult child could be a math genius and extroverted. It is the way they handle their lives that are the commonalities. It almost seems like nearly every new poster has a similar difficult child...kind of like there is a difficult child spectrum....some are the absolute most-in-trouble difficult child and are in prison. Some have never been caught (yet). Most are sneaky, lie and don't want to support themselves. I find the commonality of this probably one of the personality disorders. They all do have their own interests, talents, and ways of socializing (often badly...haha). But I've long seen a pattern to their difficulties, with just a very few with unusual problems being more classically mentally ill and more moral than the others.</p><p></p><p>Most teenagers are not as horribly obnoxious as ours are <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Most 25 year olds and up are eager to be on their own. I see a trend in our difficult children towards the Peter Pan Syndrome with a twist. Treat me like an adult when it comes to rules and boundaries, but support me like you did when I was six. This attitude can vary in seriousness from, say, 10 as in 10 being the worst and most inflexible in this way and 2 which is just being enough like that to cause grief while still living at home.</p><p></p><p>A serious lack of empathy seems to exist within most of them. They often blame us for all their ills and rarely show any caring toward us, as if we are not people, but we are providers who do their bidding.</p><p></p><p>Autistic spectrum kids are incredibly different in how their autism is expressed, yet, as the moms of my parenting group say, in many ways they are the same. So...I see what you mean there too. And I 100% agree!</p><p></p><p>As for therapists and other mental health professionals, I don't think I can write here what I really think about most of them. It isn't just their judging, which is huge though. It is also their faulty diagnosing and medicating. Been in the system since age 23 and there has been progress, but there is still always a "mental health disorder of the month", a trendy drug t hat cures all and those who cling to old theories, such as well balanced parents will have well balanced kids. More probably, sure, but no guarantee.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 637325, member: 1550"] HM and dtsc, they are ALL different. For example, my son is very gifted intellectually, although he did not finish college, and is creative and shy. Somebody's else's difficult child could be a math genius and extroverted. It is the way they handle their lives that are the commonalities. It almost seems like nearly every new poster has a similar difficult child...kind of like there is a difficult child spectrum....some are the absolute most-in-trouble difficult child and are in prison. Some have never been caught (yet). Most are sneaky, lie and don't want to support themselves. I find the commonality of this probably one of the personality disorders. They all do have their own interests, talents, and ways of socializing (often badly...haha). But I've long seen a pattern to their difficulties, with just a very few with unusual problems being more classically mentally ill and more moral than the others. Most teenagers are not as horribly obnoxious as ours are :) Most 25 year olds and up are eager to be on their own. I see a trend in our difficult children towards the Peter Pan Syndrome with a twist. Treat me like an adult when it comes to rules and boundaries, but support me like you did when I was six. This attitude can vary in seriousness from, say, 10 as in 10 being the worst and most inflexible in this way and 2 which is just being enough like that to cause grief while still living at home. A serious lack of empathy seems to exist within most of them. They often blame us for all their ills and rarely show any caring toward us, as if we are not people, but we are providers who do their bidding. Autistic spectrum kids are incredibly different in how their autism is expressed, yet, as the moms of my parenting group say, in many ways they are the same. So...I see what you mean there too. And I 100% agree! As for therapists and other mental health professionals, I don't think I can write here what I really think about most of them. It isn't just their judging, which is huge though. It is also their faulty diagnosing and medicating. Been in the system since age 23 and there has been progress, but there is still always a "mental health disorder of the month", a trendy drug t hat cures all and those who cling to old theories, such as well balanced parents will have well balanced kids. More probably, sure, but no guarantee. [/QUOTE]
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