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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 600155" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>What a crazy ride we are all on..... so my flight Sunday night was delayed 3 hours so we didnt get home until after 2, I didnt get to bed til after 3 and I had to get up at 6:30am so I could meet him and take him to court. At court they sent him to the place where they do some of the drug court day treatment to get tested and do the groups and figure out what was next. That place is 30 min away.... so I drove him there but they didnt do drug testing in the morning and groups didnt start til 2 so we basically hung out for 3 hours while we waited... they did talk to him and tell him they would look for another placement but they were also pretty tough on him, if this next one doesnt work then he will end up doing jail time!! Of ourse a major issue is he has not place to live and they said they would try to get him in a bed in the holding place which is better than jail. He was pretty despondent, saying he didnt think it would work etc. etc. I tried to keep my cool and tell him it was up to him.... but I was also feeling pretty hopeless... it was like he wanted me to work some magic. I finally told him I didnt have any more magic, I had no other options that I had given my all trying to help him and I got pretty choked up. I tried not to let him see me cry but I know he knew I was crying and he finally got out of the car for a little while. We went to lunch and he is in contact with his girlfriend. I knew they would not find him a bed that day and so I called a homeless shelter but there was no way he would make it in time that night..... so I told him I would pay for one more night at a hotel. So then he tells me that for some reason his girlfriend mother loves him so she is trying to find him a place. </p><p></p><p>What is it with this woman.... I dont know her, she has never gotten in touch with me and she is the one who paid for him to come back from treatment 2 years ago!! But hey if she can find him treatment good for her. So she calls him with a place she has found on the internet.....she tells him they take our insurance but they dont take people who are court ordered and he needs to be referred by a doctor..... so he is trying to figure out how to do that. I am thinking to myself, but keeping my mouth shut that this is never going to fly..... for one thing I didnt think drug court would cooperate and say he wasnt court ordered, I didnt think he would find a doctor and I didnt think he would be able to do it even with insurance without out us paying a bundle. Of course what do I know.... I have only been through this a million times!!!</p><p></p><p>So he goes to group... and I leave... he is checking out this place and calls me and said not an option, insurance will only pay for a week!!! Bwa ha ha ha..... of course! The good news is that drug court did find him a bed in the holding place starting today. So I paid for a hotel last night and his girlfriend got him to the holding place today.</p><p></p><p>So we shall see..... I will not be surprised at all if he still ends up in jail..... but I am just trying to continue to let him know I love him, support him getting help without going over the top and enabling him to do bad stuff.</p><p></p><p>Even with all of this koi..... I managed to have a really good time at my family reunion.</p><p></p><p>OK now I need to catch up on the rest of you.</p><p></p><p>*TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 600155, member: 15801"] What a crazy ride we are all on..... so my flight Sunday night was delayed 3 hours so we didnt get home until after 2, I didnt get to bed til after 3 and I had to get up at 6:30am so I could meet him and take him to court. At court they sent him to the place where they do some of the drug court day treatment to get tested and do the groups and figure out what was next. That place is 30 min away.... so I drove him there but they didnt do drug testing in the morning and groups didnt start til 2 so we basically hung out for 3 hours while we waited... they did talk to him and tell him they would look for another placement but they were also pretty tough on him, if this next one doesnt work then he will end up doing jail time!! Of ourse a major issue is he has not place to live and they said they would try to get him in a bed in the holding place which is better than jail. He was pretty despondent, saying he didnt think it would work etc. etc. I tried to keep my cool and tell him it was up to him.... but I was also feeling pretty hopeless... it was like he wanted me to work some magic. I finally told him I didnt have any more magic, I had no other options that I had given my all trying to help him and I got pretty choked up. I tried not to let him see me cry but I know he knew I was crying and he finally got out of the car for a little while. We went to lunch and he is in contact with his girlfriend. I knew they would not find him a bed that day and so I called a homeless shelter but there was no way he would make it in time that night..... so I told him I would pay for one more night at a hotel. So then he tells me that for some reason his girlfriend mother loves him so she is trying to find him a place. What is it with this woman.... I dont know her, she has never gotten in touch with me and she is the one who paid for him to come back from treatment 2 years ago!! But hey if she can find him treatment good for her. So she calls him with a place she has found on the internet.....she tells him they take our insurance but they dont take people who are court ordered and he needs to be referred by a doctor..... so he is trying to figure out how to do that. I am thinking to myself, but keeping my mouth shut that this is never going to fly..... for one thing I didnt think drug court would cooperate and say he wasnt court ordered, I didnt think he would find a doctor and I didnt think he would be able to do it even with insurance without out us paying a bundle. Of course what do I know.... I have only been through this a million times!!! So he goes to group... and I leave... he is checking out this place and calls me and said not an option, insurance will only pay for a week!!! Bwa ha ha ha..... of course! The good news is that drug court did find him a bed in the holding place starting today. So I paid for a hotel last night and his girlfriend got him to the holding place today. So we shall see..... I will not be surprised at all if he still ends up in jail..... but I am just trying to continue to let him know I love him, support him getting help without going over the top and enabling him to do bad stuff. Even with all of this koi..... I managed to have a really good time at my family reunion. OK now I need to catch up on the rest of you. *TL [/QUOTE]
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