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Thinking of cutting off communications with difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 616683" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Greenstockings, welcome. I'm sorry you find yourself in the situation you do with your son. Your story is not unlike many of ours here. You've responded to another's thread and it would be beneficial if you copied the post and created a new thread of your own so folks could respond directly to you. </p><p></p><p>It sounds as if you've reached a point where you know different choices have to be made for<u> your</u> well being. That's good. It can be difficult to uphold those new choices in the face of our guilt and our kids manipulations. It is always a positive idea to get yourself as much support as you possibly can. Perhaps you already have that, but if you don't, it is SO important and helpful for us to have a therapist, a counselor, a parent support group,a 12 step group, a NAMI parent course, (National Alliance on Mental Illness)............someplace we can go to feel heard, seen, supported and also given the tools, understanding and help so that we can make the changes necessary so we do not enable our kids thereby crippling them by not allowing them to face the consequences of their usually poor choices. </p><p></p><p>Our kids usually blame us and to some degree many of us take that on because of our guilt............but it's our kids who make the bad choices, not us. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us and I hope you keep posting because it helps to be with others who've been in your shoes. It helps us if you can put a signature at the bottom of your posts so we can recognize you and recall your story so we can better support you. Wishing you peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 616683, member: 13542"] Greenstockings, welcome. I'm sorry you find yourself in the situation you do with your son. Your story is not unlike many of ours here. You've responded to another's thread and it would be beneficial if you copied the post and created a new thread of your own so folks could respond directly to you. It sounds as if you've reached a point where you know different choices have to be made for[U] your[/U] well being. That's good. It can be difficult to uphold those new choices in the face of our guilt and our kids manipulations. It is always a positive idea to get yourself as much support as you possibly can. Perhaps you already have that, but if you don't, it is SO important and helpful for us to have a therapist, a counselor, a parent support group,a 12 step group, a NAMI parent course, (National Alliance on Mental Illness)............someplace we can go to feel heard, seen, supported and also given the tools, understanding and help so that we can make the changes necessary so we do not enable our kids thereby crippling them by not allowing them to face the consequences of their usually poor choices. Our kids usually blame us and to some degree many of us take that on because of our guilt............but it's our kids who make the bad choices, not us. I'm glad you found us and I hope you keep posting because it helps to be with others who've been in your shoes. It helps us if you can put a signature at the bottom of your posts so we can recognize you and recall your story so we can better support you. Wishing you peace. [/QUOTE]
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