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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 79082" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>I have to say, I HAVE seen the movie Thirteen, and that was the reason I wasn't sure whether to let her see it or not. However, after much thought and discussion with her father, we did decide to allow her to watch it, but I asked her to be thinking while she was watching because I wanted her to pay close attention to how quickly things spun out of control after only a FEW bad choices, and I also told her to pay close attention to how quickly the girl's "BEST" friend turned on her when things got rough. </p><p></p><p>We did talk about it afterwards and she seemed to really take some things out of it, and to be completely honest, the only "thing" that hasn't been a part of her life already is body piercing...</p><p></p><p>Not necessarily HER, but the cutting, she already cuts; the drugs, she REALLY faults her bio mom for wrecking her life with drugs and alcohol, so these are already behaviors our difficult child HATES and refuses to be any part of; as for the sex, difficult child ALSO faults her bio mom for getting pregnant and having her too young to be ready to take care of her, so she SWEARS she will not have sex with a boy until she is married. Granted, these attitudes may change as she gets older, and I am fully aware that all the risk factors are there and will always be paying VERY close attention, but right now, her feelings about most of these issues are TOO INTENSELY NEGATIVE for her to think they are okay. </p><p></p><p>She did tell me after she watched it that she wanted her tongue pierced...which really isn't any big deal, it is probably something that we will allow her to do anyway as soon as she can show us she is responsible enough to take care of it. I can't say much there anyway, becuase I have a tongue piercing AND a belly button piercing.</p><p></p><p>And I have to say it is so strange that another parent on here as connected this "Thirteen" movie to "The Craft" besides me. When I was 13, I was mixed up in a cirlce of people that were modeled like the girls in "The Craft" and nothing but bad things came from it. I was never as wild as the girls in "Thirteen", but when it came to the end and we got into trouble over the witchcraft stuff, my one friend and I were the ones that got blamed for starting the whole thing, even though we were the two they had to work extra hard to talk into the whole idea. And unfortunately for me at that time, when my friend and I were excluded, we ended up dealing with things much like the girl in "Thirteen", and sorry to say we were not as strong as the girl in "The Craft." Both of us had a "breakdown" of sorts, and landed ourselves in the psychiatric hospital. Which I am sure if the movie continued, that is where the girl in "Thirteen" was headed. At least she would be if she were my child. </p><p></p><p>When difficult child got into all the trouble she got into last night, I thought it was finally time to tell her my "13" story and I sat her down and explained the kinds of things I did, where I went wrong, and how it made me feel when it came to a NASTY end. It was at that point I actually considered I would let her WATCH "Thirteen" when it came on TONIGHT, and I also marched her downstairs LAST NIGHT and had her watch "The Craft".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 79082, member: 3527"] I have to say, I HAVE seen the movie Thirteen, and that was the reason I wasn't sure whether to let her see it or not. However, after much thought and discussion with her father, we did decide to allow her to watch it, but I asked her to be thinking while she was watching because I wanted her to pay close attention to how quickly things spun out of control after only a FEW bad choices, and I also told her to pay close attention to how quickly the girl's "BEST" friend turned on her when things got rough. We did talk about it afterwards and she seemed to really take some things out of it, and to be completely honest, the only "thing" that hasn't been a part of her life already is body piercing... Not necessarily HER, but the cutting, she already cuts; the drugs, she REALLY faults her bio mom for wrecking her life with drugs and alcohol, so these are already behaviors our difficult child HATES and refuses to be any part of; as for the sex, difficult child ALSO faults her bio mom for getting pregnant and having her too young to be ready to take care of her, so she SWEARS she will not have sex with a boy until she is married. Granted, these attitudes may change as she gets older, and I am fully aware that all the risk factors are there and will always be paying VERY close attention, but right now, her feelings about most of these issues are TOO INTENSELY NEGATIVE for her to think they are okay. She did tell me after she watched it that she wanted her tongue pierced...which really isn't any big deal, it is probably something that we will allow her to do anyway as soon as she can show us she is responsible enough to take care of it. I can't say much there anyway, becuase I have a tongue piercing AND a belly button piercing. And I have to say it is so strange that another parent on here as connected this "Thirteen" movie to "The Craft" besides me. When I was 13, I was mixed up in a cirlce of people that were modeled like the girls in "The Craft" and nothing but bad things came from it. I was never as wild as the girls in "Thirteen", but when it came to the end and we got into trouble over the witchcraft stuff, my one friend and I were the ones that got blamed for starting the whole thing, even though we were the two they had to work extra hard to talk into the whole idea. And unfortunately for me at that time, when my friend and I were excluded, we ended up dealing with things much like the girl in "Thirteen", and sorry to say we were not as strong as the girl in "The Craft." Both of us had a "breakdown" of sorts, and landed ourselves in the psychiatric hospital. Which I am sure if the movie continued, that is where the girl in "Thirteen" was headed. At least she would be if she were my child. When difficult child got into all the trouble she got into last night, I thought it was finally time to tell her my "13" story and I sat her down and explained the kinds of things I did, where I went wrong, and how it made me feel when it came to a NASTY end. It was at that point I actually considered I would let her WATCH "Thirteen" when it came on TONIGHT, and I also marched her downstairs LAST NIGHT and had her watch "The Craft". [/QUOTE]
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