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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 491430" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I was thinking exactly what TeDo was thinking.... (and thus klmno)... how do you know that is really the story??? and if anything like my nieces and nephew's dad, that is free time even if it is day after day....all the online or gaming time they want, whatever movies, anything they want to eat, dont have to clean up, etc..... </p><p></p><p>And he may think that some of the things he does that for you are not ok ARE ok, sometimes guys have different standards. AND since he is not with dad very much he may in a child's way feel like that is his fault so he is doing whatever he can (but could not say that) to make sure he doesn't screw up and not get to see dad even more (the insecure theory but secure with you theory) and all of the above...</p><p></p><p>Tony Attwood says that it is like a spring.... while they are at school or someplace where they have to perform more, the spring becomes compressed and holds its form and then when they get back to homebase .... spring! it pops back. </p><p></p><p>I know it stinks, because in theory at the very least it would imply you should have some days like that too! Anyway, as everyone says, dont let it reflect on you at all. It is what it is. He does have issues at school so that should say something about those that are pushing him to reach his potential and working on skills, etc. Just a theory, I dont know his dad but could be.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 491430, member: 12886"] I was thinking exactly what TeDo was thinking.... (and thus klmno)... how do you know that is really the story??? and if anything like my nieces and nephew's dad, that is free time even if it is day after day....all the online or gaming time they want, whatever movies, anything they want to eat, dont have to clean up, etc..... And he may think that some of the things he does that for you are not ok ARE ok, sometimes guys have different standards. AND since he is not with dad very much he may in a child's way feel like that is his fault so he is doing whatever he can (but could not say that) to make sure he doesn't screw up and not get to see dad even more (the insecure theory but secure with you theory) and all of the above... Tony Attwood says that it is like a spring.... while they are at school or someplace where they have to perform more, the spring becomes compressed and holds its form and then when they get back to homebase .... spring! it pops back. I know it stinks, because in theory at the very least it would imply you should have some days like that too! Anyway, as everyone says, dont let it reflect on you at all. It is what it is. He does have issues at school so that should say something about those that are pushing him to reach his potential and working on skills, etc. Just a theory, I dont know his dad but could be..... [/QUOTE]
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