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<blockquote data-quote="Triedntrue" data-source="post: 747695" data-attributes="member: 21499"><p>You do not ramble in my opinion you just give the details we need. I have been through the same thing with my son where he accused his father of abuse because of an incident where he got angry because of the vile things coming out of my sons mouth. My husband was not abusive. I truly believe that when he goes off on a what i call hissy fit sometimes verbal, sometimes throwing things that he blacks alot of it out in his mind. I would address it with the councelor in a calm and rational way. Maybe something like i would like to readdress or clarify some things that were said in our last session because my memories differ from my sons. I think the councelor will be able to assess what you both said and draw his/her conclusions. Having your husband go is a good idea as well. </p><p>My sons memories and mine often don't coincide and sometimes he even says i never did that when there are multiple others that say he did. I don't know if that is part of his disease or drug or alchohol induced. I think that many here have reached a point where we stood up to the abuse in what may or may not have been an appropriate manner because we felt threatened or another loved one was threatened. It is not the same as a pattern of abuse. I wish at times that i had been able to record him during some of his fits i honestly think he would be shocked at what he does. I am afraid that if i tried it would just enrage him more. He has settled some in the last year as far as verbal abuse to me. He has however had a couple blowups with others. For this reason i think both your son and the councelor need to hear what both you and your husband remember so he/she can put together as true a picture as possible. As far as the app i would say i don't plan to give you money so what would be the point. In the meantime try to be good to yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Triedntrue, post: 747695, member: 21499"] You do not ramble in my opinion you just give the details we need. I have been through the same thing with my son where he accused his father of abuse because of an incident where he got angry because of the vile things coming out of my sons mouth. My husband was not abusive. I truly believe that when he goes off on a what i call hissy fit sometimes verbal, sometimes throwing things that he blacks alot of it out in his mind. I would address it with the councelor in a calm and rational way. Maybe something like i would like to readdress or clarify some things that were said in our last session because my memories differ from my sons. I think the councelor will be able to assess what you both said and draw his/her conclusions. Having your husband go is a good idea as well. My sons memories and mine often don't coincide and sometimes he even says i never did that when there are multiple others that say he did. I don't know if that is part of his disease or drug or alchohol induced. I think that many here have reached a point where we stood up to the abuse in what may or may not have been an appropriate manner because we felt threatened or another loved one was threatened. It is not the same as a pattern of abuse. I wish at times that i had been able to record him during some of his fits i honestly think he would be shocked at what he does. I am afraid that if i tried it would just enrage him more. He has settled some in the last year as far as verbal abuse to me. He has however had a couple blowups with others. For this reason i think both your son and the councelor need to hear what both you and your husband remember so he/she can put together as true a picture as possible. As far as the app i would say i don't plan to give you money so what would be the point. In the meantime try to be good to yourself. [/QUOTE]
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