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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 747705" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>My son was grown when my husband and I met and started dating. We've only been married for five years. But that's one of the things that has me concerned, is that the counselor might be under the impression that my son grew up with an alcoholic stepfather in the home. My son grew up, literally from the day he was born (his father had left two months earlier and was never in the picture), in a single-parent household that was drug and alcohol free with the exception of cigarettes (which is one of the few things my son never picked up, thankfully). I did do drugs here and there in my younger years but by the time my son came into my life I was only smoking weed, and then just on occasion. And the day I found out I was pregnant I ended that 100% as well. Of course there were issues and a certain amount of dysfunction, especially since I didn't have the tools and knowledge to deal properly with him when he started acting out and showing signs of mental and/or behavioral disorders. But my husband was a complete unknown living in a different state during those years so whatever traumas or issues (real or perceived) my son experienced in childhood, my husband wasn't a factor.</p><p></p><p>I really believe that he very likely brought my husband into the conversation to deflect from his own issues and/or use my husband's drinking as justification or excuse for his own drug use and/or to try to make me for guilty.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 747705, member: 22877"] My son was grown when my husband and I met and started dating. We've only been married for five years. But that's one of the things that has me concerned, is that the counselor might be under the impression that my son grew up with an alcoholic stepfather in the home. My son grew up, literally from the day he was born (his father had left two months earlier and was never in the picture), in a single-parent household that was drug and alcohol free with the exception of cigarettes (which is one of the few things my son never picked up, thankfully). I did do drugs here and there in my younger years but by the time my son came into my life I was only smoking weed, and then just on occasion. And the day I found out I was pregnant I ended that 100% as well. Of course there were issues and a certain amount of dysfunction, especially since I didn't have the tools and knowledge to deal properly with him when he started acting out and showing signs of mental and/or behavioral disorders. But my husband was a complete unknown living in a different state during those years so whatever traumas or issues (real or perceived) my son experienced in childhood, my husband wasn't a factor. I really believe that he very likely brought my husband into the conversation to deflect from his own issues and/or use my husband's drinking as justification or excuse for his own drug use and/or to try to make me for guilty. [/QUOTE]
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