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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 608433" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>You are doing the right thing. You mentioned behavior change, and I believe the possibility of drug use has been discussed here, in an earlier post. The two go together. When you interact with someone actively using a drug of some kind, you are interacting with the drug, not the person. That is where the behavior change comes in. </p><p></p><p>You did not choose this. But you do have to respond to it. Your son is continuing to choose the unstable girlfriend and the lifestyle she represents. All you are telling him is that you will not support this lifestyle in your home. That is your right and, if things are deteriorating, your responsibility to yourself and to your family. If you do not take a stand now, you will have to take that same stand at some point in the future.</p><p></p><p>As hard as this is, it will be harder if you allow him to move her in again. You will be teaching him that you can be sucked into a very nasty game you don't want to play. Draw the line, state your rules clearly, and stick to them. Better your son should have a safe, sane place to return to than that he destroy the relationship he has built with all of you as he goes through whatever this is. </p><p></p><p>A bath now, a therapist in the near future, are perfect choices.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry this is happening.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 608433, member: 1721"] You are doing the right thing. You mentioned behavior change, and I believe the possibility of drug use has been discussed here, in an earlier post. The two go together. When you interact with someone actively using a drug of some kind, you are interacting with the drug, not the person. That is where the behavior change comes in. You did not choose this. But you do have to respond to it. Your son is continuing to choose the unstable girlfriend and the lifestyle she represents. All you are telling him is that you will not support this lifestyle in your home. That is your right and, if things are deteriorating, your responsibility to yourself and to your family. If you do not take a stand now, you will have to take that same stand at some point in the future. As hard as this is, it will be harder if you allow him to move her in again. You will be teaching him that you can be sucked into a very nasty game you don't want to play. Draw the line, state your rules clearly, and stick to them. Better your son should have a safe, sane place to return to than that he destroy the relationship he has built with all of you as he goes through whatever this is. A bath now, a therapist in the near future, are perfect choices. I'm sorry this is happening. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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