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This is a jerky question, but is there somewhere to look to see what counts as abuse?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mamaof5" data-source="post: 355884"><p>I too don't think it's a sign of sexual abuse. At 7 years old it's actually more age appropo than most people think it is. This is the age at where curiosity of the body is very common and starts with inappropo behaviors like OP's difficult child did. Honestly, I think he did it for shock factor, the "look at me now" factor. My 6 year old has tried this same thing (in the house, out of house in the front, peeing on someone's lawn even for my 9 yr old - at the time 8 yr old when some lady screamed at his brother to "get the f off her lawn" - he knee jerk reacted and did what first came to mind to defend his baby brother).</p><p></p><p>It happens and it must be dealt with at age appropo levels. I like Marg's suggestions - put it away, planned ignoring perhaps might work if it's in the home or in the car? Maybe a "that kind of thing is meant to be in private in your room or in the bathroom, please go there to do that" is what I use and have used with my kids. Without blame, without making it seem the body part (penis, vulva, nakedness) are inherently wrong just the act in public areas of the house or outside is wrong. You don't want to scare him into thinking his penis is a dirty little taboo that should not be spoken about or asked about or mentioned, just inappropriate behaviors.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mamaof5, post: 355884"] I too don't think it's a sign of sexual abuse. At 7 years old it's actually more age appropo than most people think it is. This is the age at where curiosity of the body is very common and starts with inappropo behaviors like OP's difficult child did. Honestly, I think he did it for shock factor, the "look at me now" factor. My 6 year old has tried this same thing (in the house, out of house in the front, peeing on someone's lawn even for my 9 yr old - at the time 8 yr old when some lady screamed at his brother to "get the f off her lawn" - he knee jerk reacted and did what first came to mind to defend his baby brother). It happens and it must be dealt with at age appropo levels. I like Marg's suggestions - put it away, planned ignoring perhaps might work if it's in the home or in the car? Maybe a "that kind of thing is meant to be in private in your room or in the bathroom, please go there to do that" is what I use and have used with my kids. Without blame, without making it seem the body part (penis, vulva, nakedness) are inherently wrong just the act in public areas of the house or outside is wrong. You don't want to scare him into thinking his penis is a dirty little taboo that should not be spoken about or asked about or mentioned, just inappropriate behaviors. [/QUOTE]
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