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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 752082" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>Copa, you said it well. </p><p></p><p>Wise Choices, thank you for sharing the anecdote. </p><p></p><p>Beta, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you were able to find some common ground with your sis. I think of your safety often.</p><p></p><p>ckay, </p><p>I am working hard at detaching and being okay within myself. This is the way I chose to see it. I am not abandoning my child. What I am doing is detaching from the crisis mode and manipulative behavior. I am working towards rational thinking and avoiding emotionally driven decisions. I think it is important to periodically send a simple text to my daughter that says we love you. She knows the boundaries, and somewhere inside herself she knows we will be there with compassionate understanding and help when she acknowledges her bad choices are hers alone, finds a job, supports herself, and seeks treatment and participates in therapies for her alcohol, adderall, and xanax abuse. That is the last I know of, I don't need to know more (there was a time when I did). </p><p></p><p>I have one tattoo. It is of an Indian feather and I got it in memory of my mother with a little rebellion; she didn't like tattoos (and she didn't want me to get my ears pierced, LOL.) As it turns out a DNA test says the family does not have Blackfeet Indian roots after all. Moral of the story, don't let what someone else says over time influence our choices. We can wallow in misery or live our best life, it will not change the behaviors of our adult children, because like us, only they can.</p><p></p><p>I am thinking of you with light and love. Glad you are here.</p><p></p><p>Light and life for us all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 752082, member: 23811"] Copa, you said it well. Wise Choices, thank you for sharing the anecdote. Beta, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you were able to find some common ground with your sis. I think of your safety often. ckay, I am working hard at detaching and being okay within myself. This is the way I chose to see it. I am not abandoning my child. What I am doing is detaching from the crisis mode and manipulative behavior. I am working towards rational thinking and avoiding emotionally driven decisions. I think it is important to periodically send a simple text to my daughter that says we love you. She knows the boundaries, and somewhere inside herself she knows we will be there with compassionate understanding and help when she acknowledges her bad choices are hers alone, finds a job, supports herself, and seeks treatment and participates in therapies for her alcohol, adderall, and xanax abuse. That is the last I know of, I don't need to know more (there was a time when I did). I have one tattoo. It is of an Indian feather and I got it in memory of my mother with a little rebellion; she didn't like tattoos (and she didn't want me to get my ears pierced, LOL.) As it turns out a DNA test says the family does not have Blackfeet Indian roots after all. Moral of the story, don't let what someone else says over time influence our choices. We can wallow in misery or live our best life, it will not change the behaviors of our adult children, because like us, only they can. I am thinking of you with light and love. Glad you are here. Light and life for us all. [/QUOTE]
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