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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 485118" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>OH sorry malika. I imagine part of the upset is that you are having some of your questions, worries, whatever...maybe confirmed.??? I wouldn't think that it is the most serious thing, kids do go too far and I had probably weekly examples of that when I did daycare. But it is he big picture here, your gut is worried something is off. I dont think you need to worry about a large violent child yet... just because there are so many other factors. Immaturity being one. As his morals develop, as he becomes less egocentric and more caring about others in his life.... things will change. Lets imagine he is fully diagnosed ADHD. That can look different in different kids I realize that, but usually these kids are not going to just go off and hurt their parents. Do they have temper issues and outbursts at times, yes, some do. But not typically seriously violent, trying to hurt others, kinds of people. (of course that is if there are not other issues going on). </p><p></p><p>I would be mortified and think about if I should call the parent too. I would just make it known to the child minder program that you are willing to meet or talk to the parents if they are concerned. Then just let it go. </p><p></p><p>I too have had to just do all or none when it comes to rough play. I think the fact taht Q had such a great summer with kids was great. but one that he really loved did a lot of wrestling moves and now Q is doing that but too rough. Just doesn't have the judgement of when to call it quits. Had never in his life done any kind of choke hold before... totally learned from this kid. I am mad at myself that I missed that. You might have to come to a place, only IF it i a pattern... where you make a rule like that. </p><p></p><p>I would talk to the psyciatrist and the other guy (I keep forgetting what you call him). These are exactly the kinds of things that it wont hurt to work on... judgement, impulse control, etc... in case your gut is right. But dont get overwhelmed, there are many more reasons than not to think that he will progress and do better in this area in the future.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 485118, member: 12886"] OH sorry malika. I imagine part of the upset is that you are having some of your questions, worries, whatever...maybe confirmed.??? I wouldn't think that it is the most serious thing, kids do go too far and I had probably weekly examples of that when I did daycare. But it is he big picture here, your gut is worried something is off. I dont think you need to worry about a large violent child yet... just because there are so many other factors. Immaturity being one. As his morals develop, as he becomes less egocentric and more caring about others in his life.... things will change. Lets imagine he is fully diagnosed ADHD. That can look different in different kids I realize that, but usually these kids are not going to just go off and hurt their parents. Do they have temper issues and outbursts at times, yes, some do. But not typically seriously violent, trying to hurt others, kinds of people. (of course that is if there are not other issues going on). I would be mortified and think about if I should call the parent too. I would just make it known to the child minder program that you are willing to meet or talk to the parents if they are concerned. Then just let it go. I too have had to just do all or none when it comes to rough play. I think the fact taht Q had such a great summer with kids was great. but one that he really loved did a lot of wrestling moves and now Q is doing that but too rough. Just doesn't have the judgement of when to call it quits. Had never in his life done any kind of choke hold before... totally learned from this kid. I am mad at myself that I missed that. You might have to come to a place, only IF it i a pattern... where you make a rule like that. I would talk to the psyciatrist and the other guy (I keep forgetting what you call him). These are exactly the kinds of things that it wont hurt to work on... judgement, impulse control, etc... in case your gut is right. But dont get overwhelmed, there are many more reasons than not to think that he will progress and do better in this area in the future. [/QUOTE]
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